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So we have written a letter - ready to email tomorrow evening (as tomorrow is the deadline) and still have had no contact from CAFCASS.
Basically said that it is disappointing not to have had the s7 completed, hoping they can continue the variation proceedings but if not (he) will understand. Requested for clarification on the current arrangement order specifically the summer holidays with reference to the order by stating the below..
It states, 'the child is to spend up to 5 consecutive nights by the time she is 4 years old and up to 7 consecutive nights by the time she is 5 years old.' In the findings of fact it then states the child should spend 7 nights from her fifth birthday.
Reminded them of the childs current age and when they will be 5 and lastly said that he believes it is best to increase her nights as envisaged so the child does not feel the father is not interested and that he would like the child to know she has 2 loving families with a committed father. Said without clarification there is a possibilty that the mother will refuse contact which will affect the child.
Personally, seeing my partner go through this and stress out - I think it is a massive let down from CAFCASS and hoping the court will at least discuss the summer holidays if they cant continue with the variation proceedings.
Thanks from everyone who has helped. I will post any updates.
Well we have had a response just not too long ago.
Cafcass have now said they do not need to see child with father but will do a home visit for tomorrow Wednesday or Thursday. It's ridiculous to accommodate at such short notice with work commitment.
Said they have extended the date to 16th July and court is on 17th July.
I would consider a letter/email to the court to complain about the way CAFCASS havent been kept informed about the delays and your concerns that the report is being badly rushed, without due care and diligence.
Do you think thats best to do now? Even though they are arranging an appointment. Just dont want to annoy the case worker before they have a meeting/visit the home because i feel it might contribute to the case worker to have a bad opinion?
I think my partner is definitely going to raise the concern if it comes back negative but shouldnt he be able to raise the concern without 'treading on eggshells'?
The truth is it has been awful service, communication and it makes me wonder what would have happened if my partner didnt continue contacting them?!
On the other hand if it does come back all fine - who cares? as long as they can continue proceedings im sure my partner will be happy....
Thanks for all support etc
Update:
The CAFCASS officer came to our house yesterday, and all seemed quite positive to be honest.
Asked why my partner would think mum would fustrate the order and refuse contact - Also asked me.
Got the background of what had happened but said there were no safeguarding issues so there is no reason all school holidays shouldnt be shared equally. They did say to remember that they make recommendations and the judge make the final decision but was very helpful.
They couldnt believe the little contact (my partner) has with his daughter, or how his daughter wasnt allowed to spend time with his family on her own etc. They suggested quite a few things we would be happy to have in place.
He did say that he was concerned about the allegations but the CAFCASS officer said not to worry too much because if she has never raised it before the hearing and allows her daughter to go to our home every other weekend (where there is apparently abuse happening) then the judge wont take it too serious as their logic is no mother would actually allow their child to spend time with someone they think is abusive!
Having said all the above, the officer still needs to go to his ex's home and talk to her but so far i think its all quite positive. I don't think my partner is asking for much so fingers crossed!
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