Welcome to the DAD.Info forum: Important Information – open to read:
Our forum aims to provide support and guidance where it can, however we may not always have the answer. The forum is not moderated 24 hours a day, so If you – or someone you know – are being harmed or in immediate danger of being harmed, call the police on 999.
Alternatively, if you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123.
If you are worried about you or someone you know is at risk of harm, please click here: How we can help
thanks for the advice. not holding my breath, but would be great if they do allow mid-week overnights. with regards to little one, i was planning to pick her up on the sunday like collect 12:00, return 5pm. as you mentioned it would be gradual build up of contact. then perhaps after 2-3 months it can go to 10-5pm. overnights after age 2 and most likely need a new court application for that:p
i called police on ex lol. as they refused to let me pick up kids from 4pm. they wanted a quiet evening. thought they could talk sense in them. never mind. yes good point, school pick ups is a safe haven, but i can only do so much before it affects my job badly. and after her nonsense on friday, i will avoid school pick ups on friday. if she wants to be a fool and breach orders, thats up to her.
You want school pick ups on Friday. harder to prevent access, without a pick up from school its easier for an ex to stop access permanently if things go wrong
hi,
yes i been doing school picks up on friday. problem arose during school holidays. ex wants me to be at her door at 15:30. dictates rubbish like that and leaves me no choice. is it my ego? i dont see why i should give in to her nonsense.
other day my child was ill and not in school. so mum said i must collect at 15:30 from her place.
If your child is ill and not at school then that is fine you pick your child up from her house. nobody would disagree with that action from your ex.
Don't ever agree to not go to school and go to her house instead to pick your child up under any circumstances. You could leave yourself open to some devious plan by ex and school could be told all sorts why you no longer pick your child up. School is a dads close thing as you can get to fort knox when it comes to child arrangements. its harder for them to stop contact as supposed if it was done from their house
hi warwickshire,
i have been doing school pick up. but what is your view on school holidays, when child is not in school, and ex says i have to pick kids from 15:30 at her place? i am left with no choice at all, and she already broke order and didnt let me pick up kids from 4pm and i left her place at 7pm without kids.
Welcome to the DAD.info forum.
We don’t like to set ‘rules’, but to make sure that you and the other dads are kept safe, we have some requests. When engaging with the forum, please be aware of the following:
- The forum is not moderated 24 hours per day.
- Many of the moderators do so on a voluntary basis. Whilst they may be able to provide some guidance, advice or support, they may not be able to deal with specifics.
- We are not an emergency crisis service so if you or someone else is in immediate danger, please call emergency services.
- If you are concerned about the safety of a child, please click here to find the support you can get for them (link to new page)
- If you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123. They are open 24 hours a day, 7 days per week.
We hope you find this forum a supportive environment and thank you for joining us.