[Solved] Returning to court: Variation of Order

turned up at door to collect kids for weekend. was refused and told they have gone out. not available. rang police. they turned up and spoke to some loser for a while. they said as kids not in danger, then theres nothing they can do. and that I just have to go back to court to sort it out. all her family/kids are around so seems she did this to spend more time with them.

applied for variation of order few weeks back, and hearing is end of this month. don't see any point doing enforcement order. will try and see if an earlier hearing date is available.

Hi Bill,

So sorry you're having to go through this. I hope you at least got some kind of note from the police when they showed up today so you can present this also at court. Keep in there and stay focused.

thanks toks. i picked up kids next morning. family said stick to order and don't be tempted to make own rules, even if other side is being stupid. now have to remember to ask in court for specific time frames when picking up kids on a friday. apparently turning up shortly after 4pm is good enough reason to tell me kids are not available lol. need specific well-defined orders when dealing with nutters.

Ain't that the truth! My son's mother felt it was her right to interpret any and all parts of the order that wasn't fully specified to the letter, and always in her favour - she would argue a point one way, then the complete reverse, depending on which gave her the most time with our son. Fortunately almost all our communication after the order has been done in writing, so I've been able to point out all her numerous inconsistencies and double standards, which in most cases made it easier to argue her down, as she knew I was more than happy to bundle them all up to re-present at court if she carried on playing silly beggars.
PM me if you want any tips re being more specified.

hi,

can anyone advise when i am in court, should I make a big deal out of the fact that i was blocked from picking up kids just after 4pm on weekend? (just the friday, but got kids next day) i am seeking variation for increased time and do not want to appear as though i have just gone there to fight with ex and throw dirt. last year my barrister said he had a case, for shared care. judge threw it out because parents just hate eachother. too much hostility. he said its difficult to make shared care arrangements work when parents can't work together.