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really need help on a number of issues
separated in 2011
ex stopped contact straight away for no reason
had constant allegations
alcohol abuse ,had tests in 2013 and was fine
health issues ,got letter off gp all good
the list is too long to go on,anyway finally after 3 years got contact sorted and at first all ok,but my ex continues to try to alienate my 8 year old daughter from me
finally 2 months ago I put an enforcement order in and lo and behold my ex is now saying I hit my daughter once last week,more false allegations
my questions are
how do I approach an interview with cafcass trying to prove parental alienation
any tips on preparing for the first hearing
can cafcass ask for alcohol testing again at the first hearing despite me already having them 4 years ago,and if so how is it paid for as im self repping and unemployed
can supervised contact be ordered ,even though I have no police record and my ex is only alleging I hit my daughter once,although this is false
I really don't think I could go through supervised contact as ive done nothing wrong ,and I would possibly refuse
the whole thing is getting me down,just want a relationship with my daughter
any advice would be great
thanks
Hi There,
Fellow dad here,
sounds like you've been through he mill.
I'd suggest you approach Cafass with honesty, lay down the situation as you see it, explaining your concerns regarding the repeat allegations, and that you feel that your ex is trying to place a wedge between yourself and your daughter. Just be completely honest and show them you have nothing to hide, that you only want to have a relationship and spend time with your daughter.
Regards alcohol, most of us drink it, unless this has been a previous problem with misuse then shouldn't be an issue in my book, most people seem to drink responsibly. You can head this off early by being proactive....... go to your doctors, explain the situation and get a test done, if it comes up with Cafcass then you let them know, otherwise just sit on the results until you need them.
Personally..... I was happy with supervised contact rather than no contact at all...... had it myself after first allegations went in from ex.... did it for three months before got unsupervised and overnights..... although at the time the supervised contact was ordered to be lightly supervised by a family member. If your are asked to have contact under supervision then you can turn this into a positive step, it would allow you to build an evidence base that shows you can have a normal relationship with your daughter....... however you'll cross that bridge when you come to it..... IF you come to it, its only one possibility!..... it might not even come to that.
Keep your head up mate, and just keep asking questions when they come.
Hi
I would be honest with Cafcass. Explain how you see it but don't go in guns blazing, and tell everything from your daughter's point of view and how this must be affecting her, rather than how it affects you.
Choose your words carefully with Cafcass and prepare a short position statement for the court explaining that you absolutely refute the allegations against you and what you would like the court to do.
Don't go rushing off to get yourself tested unless the court ask you to & in relation to costs, it would probably be acceptable to have a liver function test done with your GP surgery.
Nobody can predict what an individual court will decide, but if an interim measure is supervised contact, or no contact, take the supervised. It will show that you will do whatever it takes so that your child can spend time with you. If it is supervised rather than supported, the contact centre will make a detailed report of each session that can be shared with the court.
If there are allegations, it is likely that Cafcass and the court will want a Section 7 Welfare Report undertaking.
Best wishes
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