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Great result today at court, I got what I wanted and contact is being built back up with my son. I applied for enforcement of order and this was the 2nd time at court under this order, the women helped us agree over the next few weeks that I should build back my contact with him by meeting at a local children's play centre the 3 of us mum father and son where she has a coffee and I play with my son for 3 hours for the next 3 Sunday's the 4th sunday she drops him off and picks him back up from there where I stay with him, the 5th sunday she drops him off there and I can go where I want for 4 hours with him then 10novemeber back in court to see how it's progressing and the normal (original) 10am 5pm contact order will resume. I proved her wrong in court and the women and majistraites told Her she faces prision or unpaid work if she fails to comply with the order she burst out crying have to say they had no sympathy what so ever for her and every person in that court room today was fantasic! Makes me think every dad has a really good chance of seeing there child when going through this long hard route, there's light at the end of the tunnel for every dad! Her reasons for me not being able to see him were just not good enough today and she didn't get what she wanted which she asked for a contact centre, why would they give that when there no safe guarding problems. Also I have to buy a communication book for me and her to communicate. So happy with the outcome today and the warning they gave her. Happy days fingers crossed after 10novemeber I won't have to go back to court. Thanks for all the help and advice people have gave me on here, this site has really helped me when saving on solisitor fee.
It does take a while jumping through all the hoops and ticking all the boxes but it does dawn on you that the courts will bend over backwards to make sure a father sees his child at the end of the day it's the law 🙂
Thanks slim so happy about it, I was smiling while she was crying, the fact I never did anything serious to my son or her the court picked up on and her petty reasons didn't matter, could be the turning point today. How's u and ur case going? Contact centre goin well?
Thanks nannyjayne feels like a victory! He wouldn't of forgot me it's been 7weeks on Sunday since I last seen him :)))
Yeah man all my ex's poor excuses are coming out in the wash now, yeah the actual contact is going fine but it's just the contact centre staff who are getting on my tits they treat me like a complete criminal they were vile last weekend.
I've been a bit down in the dumps since if I'm honest and not looking forward to not being there for my daughters first birthday I hate waiting two weeks to see her and having the worry if my ex doesnt turn up.
I'm attending my parenting course every week which is soul destroying I just dont fit in I stick out like a sore thumb and feel a [censored] :/
I have to take half a day unpaid holiday now to attend as had a chat with my boss and they were saying it's the last time they can help me out with it all they are a little concerned about my state of mind apparently as I had my second car accident in 6 weeks this week on both occasions someone hit me a drunk driver the first time and a bus twatted me this week.
I was supposed to do my drug test in sept but just cant afford it I'm just trying to get the money together for that I've got to do 7 court bundles for court mid nov for the next hearing it's all getting to me again it's all going on to long now I want it to go to a final hearing after the next hearing as my ex is planning that I wont see my girl for xmas too.
I can handle the stress for a few weeks then [censored] starts to get to me and I can't [censored] off to ibiza now as the seasons finished
brilliant dave, chuffed for you mate. another ex being found out for what she is. Slim head up mate you inspirational soul you. You have come so far. I can relate to the two weeks thing, its so tough but you have done so well. To keep going for that length of time takes true guts and think of how you feel now compared to before. Your wee lass will adore you mate. The personal sacrifices, coming off the weed, the guts of self representing, the courage to take on the establishment and come out a winner. A week on Saturday you'll see the wee lass again. Lets keep going mate, we will get there.
Keep ur head up slim, maybe tell ur boss U have dentist or doctors app if they are concerned iv not involved my out of work life in work not told anyone I think it's best that way. Oh and another thing they required us both to go on a Seperated parents course they asked us both if we attended I said yes it was very helpful she said no her mum was to ill, was like an extra point to me today and was constantly getting them the majistraites wrote it down as soon as she said no
The course is for another 8 weeks mate and I've had to tell work from the word go as I kept breaking down infront of customers and I've needed days off to go court ect I've booked in 8 half day unpaid holidays until the end of the course so at least thats sorted
Thanks BD much appreciated mate
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