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Hi, I really could do with some advice.
I have been in proceedings for nearly 2 years now. There have been multiple delays for which my ex and I have not been at fault. There was confusion over who should do the Section 7 so it wasn't done when it was meant to & the police then took months to send over their disclosure.
I was meant to receive my exs scott schedule on 10th July however she did not send it till 16th July giving me only 5 working days to submit my response. I can also not attend her solicitors' office until today to view the disclosure. It is all very rushed but I will make the deadline. Our hearing is 29th July with position statements due on 25th July again a rush but I'll make it.
I just wanted advice on the position statement. What am I putting in this? I know I need to respond to the allegations and her statement by the 24th but what will be different about the position statement on 25th? I have no legal representation unfortunately so doing this alone. Do I mention how little time I've had to respond or am I just creating more issues?
I'd be grateful for any advice or pointers. Thanks so much
Also, I am finding it hard to respond to the schedule. Apart from the words of my daughter she has not submitted any other evidence. No photos of all these supposed injuries, nothing. Some of the allegations are insane and I want to say that but I don't think that will look great!! There is one allegation I can answer with evidence that it didn't happen as it was something very specific and she makes claims that my girl went back to her with bruising & scratches down her face & torso on a date in October however I can prove my daughter was still at mine on that date and for 4 more days after and pictures show no bruising or scratches but apart from that I don't know how I can disprove anything when she also hasn't supplied evidence of more than words.
hi,
with allegations, tackle them one at a time. you can write admit or deny, and write brief explanation. if you check order, they may want a detailed response in form of a statement also. with position statements generally, you would include the outstanding issues and what child arrangements your seeking. feel free to private message me if you need advice.
Thanks for taking the time to reply. Yes in the order it states I need to include a statement. Im just not sure what to put. I categorically deny all the allegations but not sure what else I can put. There is no evidence on either side except for one allegation where I feel I can prove its false. All the allegations are her word against mine.
Thanks. I think this is my third position statement now and my stance hasn't changed really so I'm assuming I just reiterate what I said before?
with position statement, you can include summary of allegations and your views. then going forward, what child arrangements are you proposing, like every other weekend etc
Thanks for all your help with this. I managed to complete my response and submitted it on time. Today however my ex's solicitor has sent to me another huge piece of evidence which is over 200 pages long. I feel this is unfair as I did not have sight of this when putting together my response. My position statement is due in today, do I mention that I received this today when I was meant to have everything by July 10th?
hi, you can inform court on the day that you received their documents very late, and 200 pages is excessive.
Thank you. I feel like her legal team is purposely trying to frustrate me and have held out to see what I would submit. They sent over the court bundle last night at 10pm and this morning they have now submitted further evidence by way of photographs. Again I have not had sight of this when I put together my response. She has had months to find these and claims she has only discovered them today. How can this be fair? The things she has now provided have made me look awful and I have not been able to defend myself when if she had abided by the court order I would of had all of this a few weeks ago and been able to respond.
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