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Hello,
My wife has informed me she is going to issue for divorce shortly.
Having read online I need to respond in 7 days, I'm concerned I'm ill prepared to make a decision on the appropriate course of action.
We both acknowledge divorce is the way forward (or at least I've come to terms and accepted it in the main) and my wife is keen to move things forward as she can claim for additional benefits, etc. if we are separated.
My problem is I will not agree with the reasons for the divorce. As with most couples going through this I imagine neither side agree with the other yet she has said she is going to file for divorce on grounds of, I assume, unreasonable behavior - verbal abuse - as I can't see anything else that could fit.
I will disagree with every word she says and could level unreasonable behavior (verbal abuse and drunkenness) at her but my question is whether there is any point?
If we both accept divorce is inevitable and we want to try and agree a financial agreement amicably am I best just accepting her petition or could that impact on me somehow in the future?
Or is there another way forward? Can I accept the petition without agreeing with the reasons perhaps or should I try and beat her to the punch and issue against her (that seems childish though)?
Thanks in advance.
Hi There,
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The divorce papers are just that papers that will get filled away and only ever looked at if you decide to re marry.
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I would just agree with what is on the papers, but counter with similar claims back, if you dissagree then it could all just drag on, if you tell her in advance that you will agree but counter with similar so that the divorce can go forward then hopefully she will just accept that is how it will be.
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You could also ask her to just claim irreconcilable differences when I divorced this was what my ex claimed and the divorce went through with no issues, I counter claimed agaginst her with similar and there was no issues when the divorce went through the courts. we weren't present at court as we have (after some time) managed to sort our finances out ourselves.
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GTTS
I would come to an agreement of the wording. If the reason isn't strong enough, the courts can refuse the divorce, so it can't be too weak, as each application will mean a new application fee. I think if you want to disagree with her reasons, and counter with other reasons, I think you have to pay the application fee also.
To be honest, however it's done, the end result is still a divorce so you may as well get this done as cheaply as possible. There are companies that will do the paperwork for you much cheaper than a solicitor (I can PM the one I used recently if you want - all done by email and post). If there are children involved and you'll be looking at an arrangement for contact, I would make sure that her reasons for the divorce don't impact of that, so she can't use it against you later if it turns sour.
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