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Try not to worry about the ex's allegations the courts see it all a million times over they will only take it seriously if there's concrete proof of harm to the children and if there isn't any then it will not be considered a priority to the courts. you don't really get given the chance to prove yourself in court pretty much until the final hearing, don't worry about the ex's solicitor either just deny any allegations with a firm no not true in court but like I say the courts won't be to bothered if you have a clean record and nothings been reported to the police.
You will be granted decent access it just takes a lot of time and patience you just have to play the game do everything the courts ask tick all the boxes jump through all the hoops and you will be fine, once you get the first hearing out the way you will gain confidence and feel better about it all 🙂
Thanks for the advice . In your experience how long will it take to get decent access. How many hearings and what time do they usually have between hearings.
My ex has come up with more allegations recently which are all untrue. I have a telephone interview with CAFCASS next Wednesday should I refer to these or just talk about the children
Cheers
D
...there are too many factors at play to predict how long this can take. She could agree at the first hearing in which case it will be straightforward...but if she continues with these allegations the court may well adopt caution and want reports before granting access and this could necessitate 3 or more hearings. Depending on how busy your court is will determine how long between each hearing. I think it's best to stay focused on the present and presenting the best case you can.
As far as your telephone interview goes, keep it child focused, be truthful and share your concerns but try to avoid bad mouthing the mother...if she is a good mother then say so...it's best to remain calm and reasonable and rise above [censored] for tat, it will set you in good stead in the future if you show that you are completely child centred and have no axe to grind. It's about the best interests of your child so try and answer questions from your child's perspective,
Good luck
Thank you for the reply and the reality check with the time lines.
I have spent most of the day pulling notes together for the court case and CAFCASS interview.
I have tried to remain child centric and have remained positive about the boys mum. To be honest she is a great mum it's only recently she has made wild allegations and started telling the boys lies about me,
I think she may be seeing someone else allegations nd this is the reason for the change
Hopefully the truth will find its way out
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