[Solved] Respondent refusing to accept Notice of proceeding

... to be honest, it’s not uncommon for parties not to return the forms so it shouldn’t hinder your case... you’ll just have to keep trying the front office, but I don’t they’ll be too bothered!

Just concentrate on your case, maybe think about preparing a brief two page position statement to take with you to the hearing, just to provide a little more detail. I can link to a template and further info if you like, just let me know.

All the best

hi,

yep don't worry about it. you did your bit. you cant force her to open the letter or respond. court papers are clear, in that they usually state that if a party does not attend the hearing, then proceedings can carry on without them.

Problem is, she was staying at her dad's place but then was told by her family that she's moved - but didn't give address. This was a week before I received the court papers. I don't want her to argue she wasn't living with her dad when they got delivered. I've discovered so many lies lately that I don't want her to have any lame excuses anymore. It's emotionally, psychologically and mentally draining. I can't believe that there's mothers out there who can turn so nasty against fathers and the system seems to make it easy for them too!

Im still waiting for cafcass to call me. They sent me an email last week asking me to confirm my contact details were correct. Once I've got that out the way then I'll be able to focus on the position statement. I would appreciate the template you refer to, thanks bud!

On a side note, I'm dealing with someone who exhibits strong narcissistic traits and turns everything in to a battle and complicates everything for no reason. She's got her cronies pitying and making her feel sorry for herself and despite her self destructive behaviour. so if anyone has experience or tips on how to tackle them especially in court matters then that would be so helpful!!

hi,

her family must know where she lives, so if they have any sense, they would tell her about court papers. leave it at that.

regarding nasty stupid behaviour, best thing is to stay calm and not react to it. if you play the part of a victim and complain about her behaviour, nothing will change and she will probably be more satisfied that she is breaking you. let her be as nasty as she likes. you walk with your head high and carry on with life. happiness is the best revenge.

stay calm when your dealing with cafcass. always talk about the children and show thats all you care about. dont waste time and energy responding to every one of her allegations, unless cafcass ask you to respond. i have been thinking that its so bad that i dont have direct contact with ex and she refuses. but after reading stuff on here, maybe its a blessing in disguise.

Got a letter from cafcass today, my interview is towards end of the month. Shall I mention her violent behaviour towards me (even though I never reported to police) and my kids fracture which I didn't know about which happened during separation or the other misdemanours in front of my kid?

Just received a letter from CMS today as she only went and applied to them despite me paying her. Turns out according to their calculations Im paying 1 pound something extra more.

Lady on the line said my ex partner probably didn't believe I was paying correct amount.

My ex partner refuses to engage with me about my kid or payments. It's ridiculous, has to always get her cronies to do her talking but I'm just not engaging with them now at all. Period.

I don't want to ever engage with them, they are completely immature and pathetic. It's like I'm dealing with children.

hi,

with cafcass, only focus on your children. you can tell cafcass about the injury or any kind of abuse your child experiences at hands of mother. dont focus on mother and just bash her. waste of time.

i am in the same boat as you lol. no direct contact with ex. playing a game of pass the parcel. if i want to make contact, pass message onto her brother. this bs started early on and i got sick of it very quickly, hence divorce. now im just sticking to court order and turning up on the fixed times to collect/drop kids. and message retards if its something urgent.

Im glad you managed to get contact with your children eventually. It's a nightmare dealing with a child like family. I'm no longer replying to any of them. It's like banging your head against the wall

No the family will deliberately not send it to her. They've all ganged up against me. They want to inflict as much as they can because and support my ex partner in whatever she says. So I'm not expecting them to get her to respond. In fact they'll support her in inflicting pain.

Do I need to worry about her saying she didn't receive it? Can the courts not consider parents address as reasonable address as she was living there prior to moving out in last 3 weeks? I am getting extremely worried

You sent them to her last known address, which is also the address of her father, by signed for post. You knew when you where in a relationship with your ex, she had a good relationship with her father therefore had the reasonable expectation that he would pass any letters addressed to her on to her.

Your ex does have a legal right not to share her contact details with you and vice versa, though it isn't in your children's best interests for either or both of you to do that if the children are young. If they are older e.g. teenagers they could contact you themselves.

While family court judges are unpredictable, like with all judges, they would have seen respondents try and wiggle out of cases by saying they didn't get the court papers.

I suggest you don't slag off any of her family members as they are your children's extended family. Don't mention those family members unless you are asked a direct question about them. If you have say anything about them say you are glad your children have a positive relationship with their maternal family and wait for the next question. Do not slag them off. You don't know what they are saying.

That's reassuring thanks.

What about concerns of grandparents already alienated their other granddaughter from his father who has not seen him for 5 years approximately now? And she now believes her grandfather is her dad and calls him dad. Should I not mention that, as there is a clear pattern in what they are doing?

hi,

no ignore all that. you are getting side-tracked and will end up bashing her family. a waste of time. you just need to focus solely on your children as thats what this court case is about.