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Hi , i was wondering if a group member could give me some information .
I have been instructed to attend a first appointment of an application for a financial
order in my ex wifes home town .
Attending this appointment will mean a 200 mile round trip for me .
Attending will cause me severe problems due to ill health .
I am gathering evidence of my disabilities
( GP`s letter , permission to request hospital records , copy of 10 year P.I.P award etc )
and wish to apply to the court for a closer court venue .
My ex wife is able bodied .
Could a member please advise me if there is correct procedure for doing this ?
I have done an internet search but cannot find the information i need .
Thank you , Ste .
Hi There,
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I don't have much experience I'm afriad have you spoken to the court that you have been asked to attend for advice?
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GTTS
Hi got- the- tshirt .
Thank you for responding to my question .
No , I haven't yet .
I was hoping to avoid making this issue my first verbal contact with the court .
Ste .
From experience in my wife's court appearances I believe that she had to attend the court initially and request a change to where you live now. Fortunately for her she was successful as she has the children. Your ex would also have to be considered, it may not be feasible or practical for your ex to travel that distance to your home. It is worth thinking about. I would try getting half hour free with a solicitor to ask for some advice and guidance on this. Good luck
Hi Sporadic , thank you for responding to my question .
My ex left the Family home in Jan 2000 , leaving me & our 2 boys at age 7 & 12 years .
Contact has been negligible since .
My children who are now grown men will be accompanying me to court .
Even a half way compromise would be helpful .
Strangely the original family court dealing with the divorce at end of last year
was located approximately half way between our 2 addresses but inexplicably relocated
the financial application order to my ex wifes home town .
Thanks for your kind good wishes 🙂
Ste .
Hi, I was unaware of your full situation & well done on bringing those boys up. I am sure they are a credit to you 🙂
I agree, a compromise would be helpful. Have you tried ringing the court and speaking with them to see how you would go about getting it relocated? I wish you luck & especially within your court proceedings.
Thank you Sporadic , i`m very proud of them .
They have become polite decent hard working young men
in stable relationships with lovely partners
and have already rewarded me with one beautiful
grandaughter 🙂
Whatever the outcome of proceedings ,
it wont diminish my satisfaction & pride
I suppose my best course of action would indeed be to contact
the court dealing with the first appointment .
Ste .
As this isn't a court matter concerning children, it rather your divorce, I would say it's only fair for them to consider you both as equally able to travel.... contact them as has been suggested and inform them of your health problems and hopefully a compromise can be made.
Best of luck
Thanks for commenting Mojo . I picked up my GP`s letter on Friday & will contact the court this week as suggested .
Update :
Hi everone , as suggested i made a written request to the court for a change of venue on a compromise basis on 29th March .
I also enclosed a copy of this request with my Form ` E ` .
Having heard nothing , i phoned the court and was advised to email an enquiry which i did on 11th May .
I recieved a reply telling me that the Judge had instructed the court to send a copy of my letter to my ex to enquire if she was agreeable to my request .
The letter was sent to my ex by the court on 9th May .
I have heard nothing since & am due to attend court on 7th June .
I am surprised the decision was left to my ex who lives within one mile of the court .
Does anyone have any thoughts as i think i am scuppered at this late stage .
Thanks , Ste .
Hi
You need to contact the court and explain the urgency of the matter and your inability to travel. They might pull their fingers out a bit if they realise the hearing is only a few days away. Perhaps they can adjourn and relocate or accept you attending on the phone. Call the court tomorrow and see what they suggest, make sure you get the person's name and have any details confirmed in writing via email.
Good luck
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