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Hi, Ive not been perfect but I need some advice. My daughter is 14 months and Ive not seen her since she was 6 months.
Yes, I attacked my ex in our home and she left that night with our child. I was arrested and charged but not sentenced.
Ive just applied for contact.... CAFCASS dont like me, say they want to do a Section 7 and have me drug tested. Mother wants contact centre.
When am I likely to have unsupervised access to my daughter???
Thank you. Ive just begun this process and mother isnt going to want me to see her!
not a solicitor
If the mother wants a contact centre then maybe 1 hour a week is enough to start with ( best to get mum to agree with out a battle) as with cafcass ..... if they wish to do drug testing then you need to cooperate with them..... I was alleged by my ex to be a alcoholic and .... All proved to be wrong.
The contact centre will feed back if you are doing good with your daughter and may let you go outside at the contact centre for a hour
At 14 months your baby will be the best thing to happen to you, I hope all goes well and you will be taken your daughter out in the park for a walk or push chair soon for some sunshine and fresh air very soon
Hi There,
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Due to your history, I think at least for the start a contact centre is probably where you will end up, if you had a clear hostory then you would stand a chance of having unsupervised.
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A judge will look at what is best for your daughter and the fact that you were charged after the event will go against you.
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If you follow the instructions you are given and you paly by the book, then hopefully you will be able to progress on from the contact centre to un supervised contact.
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you are going to have to jump through hoops and do everything you can to repair the damage that was done in the past.
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GTTS
Thank you. What happes if say I miss an appointment there?
I've been seeing my children at a contact centre for several months. If for any reason you can't attend make sure you contact the contact centre and explain why.
If there are genuine reasons for you not being able to attend I'm sure it won't stand against you.
Your child/children will have very little opportunity to see dad - make the most of it for their sake and your own. There may come a time in the future when you gain access to them and you need to keep your relationship with them. If you only get to see them for a couple of hours each fortnight or similar, every moment is precious. They've only got one dad - try to be there for them as much as is physically possible.
I agree, missing the odd one won't go against you, but give as much notice as possible. My ex sometimes missed contact at a couple of hours notice, and that never went down well.
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