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Hello new to this, and need advice on contact with my daughter. I haven't had contact for 24 weeks now in person. For the last 5-6 weeks I've had to contact her via Facebook every Saturday for 20mins..
On the 30.08.16 I put in my 2nd enforcement order because my x was stopping contact again.
On 18.08.16 I called her and found her up at my mums with our daughter telling me they were going to the Lake District. I said no it's my day I have rang you and I have won in court my times etc.
On the 25.09.16 I had to meet for exchange at asda which she had me do... She then wanted shopping etc, then she suggested going a walk then a meal, at this point while she was feeding our daughter she became snotty I've said to her why are we doing this we arnt together no more.. These are my days.. I want to go home and spend my time with our daughter without her. She said she would but she didn't, entrapping me in her car for 2-1/2 hours until my daughters swimming lesson which was previously on a Tuesday..
At the swimming baths I reported it to the police they attended, then they took me home, they then attended my x parents home while allegations were made..
Police contacted me and had a voluntary interview on 12.10.16 were allegations were put to me that my x had said that I have raped her ten times sexual assault and assault itself..
On 31.10.16 was in court for family judge said I could have supervised contact via contact centre I had to apply myself... Didn't happen apparently Cafcass has to apply to contact centre via judge but they disapproved because of the allegations.
On 12.01.17 judgfe said he wanted finding of facts reguarding allegations and set stuff x had to comply with and at the moment she hasn't done ie list of allegations which she said she is waiting for police disclosure... I cannot write my statement without her's.
Now 5 weeks away I do not have solicitor reguarding family court and reguarding criminal proceeding the police says its with cps but I've rang them and they said they have nothing on me?? So I'm lost with it all.. There is more to this story and cnt possibly write it all...
* I want to see my daughter what can I do to see her? Under human rights act? Supreme Court ? There must be away to see her and over rule the bs that is before me??
Been told off the police if I go to her school and see her they will arrest under breach of peace..
Hi There,
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These sort of allegations are becoming a lot more common to try and stop contact and hold up proceedings, and the judges are getting better at spotting it too, you do have a struggle on your hands, and you are going to have to play 100% by the book and follow anything that is asked of you while this is on going or it will come across like you have a reason to be dissagreeing. I know that may not be how you want to handle it, but it really is the best way, many members have started off being difficult and after a while realise that it doesn't help.
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Don't go to the school or try and make any contact no matter how hard it is, do everything through the courts.
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I can't really advise you on how to proceed through court as my experience is limited but someone else will be able to .
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GTTS
Unfortunately you will have to let the process run its course, the court must take all allegations serious as the safety of a child is in question.
As you are waiting for a decision from the CPS it's likely the court will want to adjourn until they know what is going to happen. Unfortunately allegations of rape when there is an ongoing contact case are more common than you would think.
You could write or email the court to tell them that you haven't received anything from your ex and are unable to respond in a statement until you have received hers.
It might help if you contacted the contact centres near to your ex, it is possible to self refer, here's a link to their website, where you'll find contact details, they also have a helpline you can call.
www.naccc.org.uk
At least you can get the information about the centre and if a place is available ready for the next hearing, you can then ask the judge if he will agree for you to,book the sessions....it might speed things up a little.
All the best
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