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Hi everyone, hoping someone can shed some light for me - I'm based in Scotland.
I have regular contact with my 2 daughters age 6 and 9 after me and my ex split up 3 years ago.
When we split up I moved out and left everything (I meant everything!) for her and my girls so I was homeless for a while.
I've have my girls Friday to Sunday alternate weekend and 1-2 weeks school holidays during the year. She was unwilling to share any travel arrangement and insisted that she does everything for the girls so that was my problem.
Currently more financially stable I moved back to be closer to my kids and she ended up moving my kids away permanently without telling me (I found out from her Facebook) and enrolled them to a new school and GP. My kids were excited of the new change so I didn't make a fuss I just wanted them to be happy and be effected as little as possible whatever is going on between me and their mum. She however still refuse to share travel arrangements.
Months into moving away (which I still have them every alternate weekend), my kids are telling me more and more they miss me and want to come over more of which refused by their mum on every occasions they have asked if they could come to my house.
Over the last few months, my oldest have expressed many times that she wants to move over to my house as she misses me, and the place she grew up and she just love being here (her words). She said she want to see her mum every second weekend. I have always tried and tell her that her mum has done so much for her and giving her everything she could so she really should think carfefull about saying things like that. I tell her when she's older and she still feels the same then we can talk about it again. (It hurts me saying that because I wanted my daughters to live with me and I would do everything I can do make it happen!)
Now my ex is accusing me of manipulating my daughter into thinking that, what should I do? Am I supposed to deny my own children just to make my ex happy?
My ex would send me recordings of her TELLING my daughter how my daughter feels and have my daughter agree to what ex was saying. My daughter has to put me on speaker phone when I phone her so my ex can hear our conversations.
I've tried mediation but she refused the mediation invitation, is court the only way down for me to get extra time with my kids and fair arrangements?
My ex is always shouting down the phone at me saying "because I am their mother and I say NO"
Can she really take me to court for manipulating my daughter which I have not!
Any help or advise would be very much appreciated! Thank you
hi,
how far away do you live from kids? I think you should take a step back from phone conversations for a while if possible, as its causing more tensions. I get this sometimes from my kids, it's not nice when they are asking to spend more days with me and their mum refuses. all I can tell them is we will see next time, or I will ask their mum. I tell them to wait for summer hols and they will spend more time with me, and we will do lot of fun things. we can't do anything really because of cold weather and lockdowns now etc. Don't ask your kids to speak to their mum about spending more time with you.
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