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Hi all,
My wife and I are separated and she has recently moved out into her parents. She has recently decided to significantly reduce her payment into our joint account. We have always held a 60/40 split which reflects our joint income.
Her original payment Into the account was £1000 which was later reduced to £700 when child care costs decreased. I maintained by contribution. Since moving out she has now reduced this further to £400 which doesn't even cover 40% of the mortgage, let alone council tax, bills and car payments etc.
We still have a little one who we have care of on a 50/50 basis.
My question is... do I have a leg to stand on legally? She's making some form on contribution with the £400 but it is not covering her share of the Costs. She earns a good wage, has recently had an increase in pay and is regularly spending money on 'luxuries' which I feel should go on upholding her side of the mortgage etc. To add to this she has regularly spent money from the joint account on other things.
Her name is on the mortgage and council tax etc.
I am less fussed about her paying for any bills as she is not here and they will decrease as a result.
Any advice welcome.
Thanks
This is a tricky area and you might need professional advice if you are planning to divorce. There are some helpful guides on the advicenow.org.uk website covering divorce and sorting out financial arrangements. They may give you an insight on what to expect. I guess you will eventually have to decide what to do about the house and how to divide the capital
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