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Hi all.
I have recently been summonsed 2 weeks ago too court for a molestation order by an ex. I went to this hearing fully prepared with evidence too contest the discusting lies said against me. At the hearing they the judge just told me that it isnt a fact hearing and that it would go too a final hearing for evidence.
I am representing myself in this case as i cant afford legal help.
At this first hearing i was told that the mother of my child has gained the trust of a recent ex i split up with after she assulted me and i got arrested for it. Was complete self defence. My recent ex hated the mother of my child with a passion and i have evidence of this. Will this help me when she takes the stand. I see this as a woman scourned situation.
Also i was informed by her solicitor that the mother has told them that social services have said that i am deemed too violent too be with my son. But after a meeting with social services nov last year i have documentation from SS telling me that they are taking no further action. Just reccomendations.
What should i expect at the hearing and baring in mind i have overwhelming evidence and witness too contest the majority of the lies.
And i havent seen my child for nearly a year which is breaking my heart.
Thanks all.
HI just thought I might help.
when you go to court stick to solid facts that cant be changed.....You say that you were arrested but do not say if there is a conviction.. if the police took No Further Action then that is a positive.
If Social Services say that they are not taking further action .. that is a positive..
Question ... What are the recommendations?
Request in writing to the court for full disclosure of all evidence that is to be presented.... If disclosure is not upheld then you will not receive a fair trail. ( injustice )
You will have a chance to claim that you are a good person and wish to do well for your son....... The courts are good when it comes to mud slinging ( also little steps are better than big ones) EG 1 hour contact as opposed to none.
hope that helps
I have lots of evidence confirming alot of her statement is lies. I have also got character statements stating how i have improved my life from my new job and fron family.
I also gave a witness that will stand too say about my relation with my son and how bad the relationship is beetween the mother and my ex. Will this help?
Thanks for responding.
I would get a written statement from your witness, but I don't think having them stand up in court is something that will be allowed.
yep, get a written statement for your witness. Witnesses are rarely called in to court for family hearings.
I would get yourself to a local FNF meeting and get some help preparing for this hearing. It is likely you will be cross examined and that you will have to ask questions of your ex unless the judge decides to do that themselves.
Is it more than likely that the judge will cross examine my ex and myself or will i be doing it. Ive read somewhere that the evidence i send off will be looked at by the judge? As i have alot of photographic evidence contradicting my ex and my babys mothers relationship was just pure hatred towards each other. Now they are both against me. Woman scorned.
Also the judge in the first hearing told us both that we can have 2 witnesses each, 1 being ourselves.
I am just simple a dad missing his little boy that has bettered his life so much for him and i got 2 woman making horrible lies with no/little proof. I just want too see him. Even if its 1 hour a week too start with.
Thanks all.
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