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Hi all,
I received my safe guarding letter today. Appears to be pretty neutral. Gives advice to the court that both parents should exercise their PR, both would benefit from seperated parents and changing lives programmes, both should do a parent plan and no further cafcass role at first hearing.
What are the chances of me getting my original contact put back in place as a starting point.
Sounds pretty standard to me, they are recommending that both parents excercise their PR so a resumption of contact is definitely on the cards.
Many find the separated parenting course insightful and if you need a template for a parenting plan you will find one in the stickys at the top of the Legal Eagle section.
I'm not sure what your original contact was, but take what is offered and prepare a schedule of increasing contact for your next hearing.
Good luck
Hi Dale
Great news! It suggests that cafcass are happy and are likely not to get involved.
I believe cafcass send report to court too as that's what happened with me. Court will be happy and you will want to create an position statement and just create and schedule of increased hours. Courts like this sort of stuff as it shows progression.
Good luck! Let us know how it all goes.
Thanks mate, I've got the position statement done and proof of several months of progression until the day my ex received the court papers, really hoping for the same contact as before reinstated as a starting point.
...try not to get too bogged down with trying to discredit the mother, rise above any recriminations (even though they may be deserved!) and show that you are completely child focused. Express a wish to be able to move forward and work together in the best interests of the child...this is what the court want to hear! Good luck.
Thank you, I've been aiming everything in that direction from the very beginning, appreciate your advice
...It looks like your case is fairly straightforward Dale, you have had a good amount of contact and this was stopped for no good reason, backed up by CAFCASS.... any sensible judge will reinstate, a schedule of increasing contact will show that you are thoughtful to the needs of the child, and the mother too. Ask for immediate reinstatement of full contact but have the schedule in reserve if they start dithering!
It might be worth asking for definition of school holidays and shared Christmas and birthdays, and I always suggest asking for more than you would be ok with, it allows you to compromise without really giving anything away. All the best with it.
That's brilliant news CAFCASS are no longer involved that makes life a lot easier for sure, your case does seem pretty straight forward and the fact that you have had good contact until court started will go in your favour in Court, Judges do actually push for a father to be there for his child and they will like to see consistency in contact so I can't see why they won't reinstate that contact you had.
Adams Dads case seems a lot like yours and he handled his case brilliantly and got a great result his advice is great.
Slim π
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