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I currently have a court order to see children for a few hours one night mid week and 2 nights every other week.
I would like to see the children more and have the time and means and have applied via the courts. However thats when the problems started and there have been many obstacles resulting me being observed with the children but have passed that with flying colours. Ex wants me to have less for some reason, says mid week contact is disruptive and but has never explained further.
CAFCASS have written balanced report (ex disagrees with it but don't know why) basically stats children want to see me etc
I would like to see them say for one night contact mid week and extended weekend Friday to Monday every other weekend. Whilst I realize there is no "norm" is this something I can expect ?
Youngest child is 6 and eldest is 10. The eldest child would actually be happy staying with me one week and her mother the next.
I don't think it's unrealistic...there's nothing to stop you asking for 50/50 the children are old enough and as you say the oldest child would like an even split.
I always suggest to ask for more than you would be happy with anyway because then you can be seen to make compromises without actually losing out.
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