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hi,
regarding schooling, you still have to right to attend sports days, parents evening etc. if your ex is not playing ball, speak to the school.
Yes, the school are on side now. They would not deal with me until the court proceedings had finished but I have now met with them and they have added me to the absent parent list, meaning I will receive reports, updates etc
Hi mate. I just thought I'd give my experience of reaching out to a child thats been alienated.
I've not seen my two elder daughters for 5 years now. They are now 14&12 now. I started court proceedings, Cafcass went and saw my children and from then on it was clear they had been alienated so I withdrew my court application.
I attempted to reach out to the eldest child last year on social media, I was told by my daughter In unequivocal terms to F off and to never contact her again and that i had made her life [censored]. That broke me as just by the reply it showed how alienated she was.
I have no doubt that one day she will attempt to contact me however I am still very upset that she told me to F off. I found that totally disrespectful and thought I had brought them up better than that.
My mother then passed away a few months after that, she died without ever seeing them again and I suppose in my mind I feel had my daughter of responded to be positively then my mum may have seen them before she died. So I'm very upset about that and I'm not sure when they are adults and they attempt contact with me, if I'll respond positively to them. They were also given the opportunity to attend mums funeral and they refused.
It is very hard tho because I know all of this is because they simply do not want to upset their mum. Their mum has even told them they can see me, but then they hear Mum bitching about me so they are getting mixed messages from her.
I hope your experience is a little more positive than mine, but please prepare yourself that if you do reach put you may be rejected like I was.
Hi Dec. I'm so sad to read your story. I believe I'm just starting my alienated journey. My children are 11 10 7 and 5. I was with them every day of their lives up until June this year. My wife made false allegations against me again, as in 2012. Only this time it's worse. If you get a minute read my story just above yours... Take good care. Devo.
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