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So here goes with my lengthy story -
I have been married to my estranged wife for 6 years and we have a 4 year old (nearly 5) from our relationship. The last year (2012) we had been together had been getting worse, with my wife out everynight and every weekend and me at home looking after my daughter. I didn't really take to much notice and our relationship had turned into nothing more that the odd hello.
Things started to go worse when whilst on shift work I had to look after my daughter and in turn was calling my parents to come and pick her up. My wife never got on with my parents and stopped me from taking my daughter there. So this was all done on the quiet.
Last September I met another woman and decided before anything could happen that I would leave my wife. She had found out about me leaving from a friend who I had confided in and promptly locked me out the house whilst away at a friends and called the Police saying i had threatend to kill her, where on my return I was promptly arrested and taken to the station. After my other friend who I was working with made a statement that i was with him all day they let me go where I went to my parents house. The following day my stuff was thrown in bags and then thrown on the street and again the Police were called with more fabrication about how I had attempted to make threats and my daughter had to come inbetween us, a bit difficult as I was 20 miles away. i picked up about 50% of my gear and headed back to my parents, from there it got worse!
Now my new girlfriend has been a friend of the family for years and after splitting from my wife we now are living together, but I never committed adultry. We moved 30 miles away so no allegations could be made that I was harrassing her and the only contact i have with my daughter is when the school contacts me and I go there to see her, the last time was three months ago and since then I haven't seen her. I have just recently found out that my wife has moved in with her boyfriend and the rest of my stuff is now missing and I have no idea where my daughter is living and with who. I have also had fake Facebook pages set up in my name and then used to be-friend people who i work with for them to receive emails calling me a paedophile and so on. I have been threatend on many occasions and have received threatening and abusive texts, all of which I have reported to the Police. I have also been paying my CSA (Iset that up as soon as I was at my parents) and I have only now just got an appointment to see a solictor. My wife solicitor on the othe rhand continually emails me with regards to all sorts putting time constraints on all my responses. I am also paying still for all outstanding debt after my wife withdrew money to take bank accounts over the overdraft limit which at the time left me penniless. I have also been scrutinised more by the Police after she makes false allegations with regards threats, thankfully now these are getting fewer and fewer and I have told them and shown them copies of the fake facebook accounts and threatening emails.
Cafcass have been involved with the first lot of court action, but my wife (bless her) told them I was taking anabolic steroids and that my girlfriend was under the age of 18 and I was living a lifestyle that my daughter should not be around. Yes I bodybuild and I have a fairly large frame, no I do not take anabolic steroids and my partner is 25 and is a school teacher as such from this I am to undergo enhanced CRB checks, drug testing and a multitude of other assesments before any sort of contact to be made, to add my wife is now seeking divorce for adultry and looking for me to sign it and have very little access to my daughter.
My biggets problems are money, i am now living in rented accomadation and with my CSA payments being over £300 i don't have much spare chnage, she on the othe rhand has just sold her mums house and received over £40k so you can see the problems I have. My girlfriend is helping me money wise, but again living together with travel costs and the bits I am limited on funds.
One question I need to ask and wonder if anyone has had the same issues is I have been advised by the Police to take out an injunction against my wife, will this affect me getting contact with my daughter?
Sorry to blurt it all out and I am sure that i am not the only one that has had this happened, but i am annoyed at not seeing my daughter and her being kept off school when I attend and also the fact i do not know where she is now living.
thanks for any help!
First thing i would advise is get the injunction against your wife........get this in before she works out that one!
i can't advise on the rest of it but sounds like you've a real nasty one here....you've obviously seen what she is capable of so far so don't expect her just going away and not fighting you.
as you've been able to prove to the Police so far that you've not been the harasser i would maybe suggest trying to get the police to issue her an harassment warning....from what you say about the fake facebook profiles etc... you would have a very good case against her!
maybe ask about the potential criminal damage to your property/possessions?
regarding money....the CSA options site will give you better insight to what you should be paying in maintenance. As far as i've read here before...any debts incurred while you were with her that benefitted the family are both of yours not just yours!
there will be others her ewho can advise better on the other parts.
keep strong and fight on.....but don't stoop to her levels it won't help.
Thanks for that. his is my next step an injunction against her. I am also seeking advice on suing her for the cost of my property. I will not be doing the things to her as she done to me, this is also her Father doing a lot of the emailing and giving her the ideas as well. The worrying thing is after speaking with one of her other ex-husbands she done this before so there appears to be a pattern emerging.
Hopefully after speaking to my solicitor tomorrow I will get a better idea as to what is next.
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