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This is quite a difficult situation to try to explain so I'm going to do my best.
I was in a relationship for 10 years with someone who turned out to be psycholically unstable. She's a sociopath and a narcissist and I ended up becoming so depressed and anxious that I lost control of myself and my own sanity and stayed in the relationship for the sake of my kids and the fact I couldn't see a way out. Eventually I woke up and was able to end it but with some clauses in place.
She's is controlling and manipulative she said she wouldn't leave unless I gave her half the savings for the mortgage which I did and also I had to be a guarantor on her new rented property which at the time I agreed to just to get her out the house. I also stupidly still have her in my car insurance.
Now to access with the children. I have a morning job which I start at 7am til 3pm and then I have to go straight to school and pick kids up at 3:20. So 20 mins to drive from work to school which puts me under a lot of pressure as sometimes my job goes over and I don't get paid much to pay for after school club.
She works evenings so I've got the children til 8:30pm then she either picks them up or asks me to drop them off. Then on wknds same again work 7 - 3 and kids picked up at 3:15 at mums house as she goes to work.
But what she likes to do is say "I'll pick them up at a certain time and then not turn up or turns up an hour later or texts me saying can they stay at yours tonight I'm tired" so I can never plan anything.
She turned up tonight at 8:30 to pick them up but because they didn't have shoes on ready she walked off and said I'm going picking something up off eBay and screwed off in the car. So kids are sat here 9 o'clock at night waiting and not knowing if and when mum will turn up again. I've got work early and had no time to get ready for work as I'm still attending to my children's needs.
Hi I have moved your topic to the Legal Eagle section where it should get more reviews
As unsettling as this is for you, it must be more so for the children as they need stability and routine.
Having said that, it's great for them and you that you are getting so much time together.
Perhaps you could consider mediation and try to agree a better routine?
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