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My son was born a kidney and bladder condition called PUV. I attended every single pre birth scan of which we had at least 20. I sat with him for 2days straight on my own in intensive care. I was there for both of his operations. Stayed at Ronald McDonald house to be near the hospital at night, and I have been to every single appointment he has had since. Me and his mother have now split and I am in the process of taking her to court. She has a new partner who has been coming to the hospital for my sons appointments. As he is nothing to do with my son, do I have the right to say he can't be there? And can I get a prohibited steps order to stop him attending the appointments?
Hi there
Im sorry to hear about your sons struggles with his health, it must be hard for you all.
Have you spoken to the mother about how you feel? As he doesnt have parental responsibility, he isnt entitled to be there, apart from support for the mother. Could you agree a compromise where he doesn't attend the consultations, but waits outside in the waiting room?
Does he know your son, or is he a relative stranger to him? Its a difficult situation, I can see why the mother might want him there for her, but he shouldnt be involved with the doctors, meetings etc. Have you spoken to the medical staff?
You havent mentioned why you are going to court? Is there a problem with contact more generally? If you wanted to try for a Prohibited Steps Order, and youre application is to do with contact matters, you can make another application within the existing proceedings, which you would do with form C2... either that or you could bring it up at the hearing and ask for directions about it.
All the best
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