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Hi All,
Been very much a lurking recently been so busy with work & family and attending court ,
we are now at the stage of final hearing set for end of September ... as much as I want to stop this limbo state all our lives are in it's hard knowing it will be a yes of no basically and the reality of that decision if it doesn't go in favour of the children ,
My ex has been emotionally and physically abusing the children however we have little evidence of this 😡
her boyfriend is currently under a pso not to be near or have any form of contact with our children , he is not allowed to have any contact with her direct or indirect due to a bail condition from a domestic very violent fight they had and the police had to break in etc however she obviously has still been seeing him and is happy to tell the world they are still in a relationship but states she is sticking to the condition imposed it's been 14 months now so very hard to believe especially as the children have witnessed him at the home,
the home the children live currently belongs to this said boyfriend
we don't have the full cafcass report yet however one line of a basic report is possibly giving me false hope
The Guardian simply cannot support both children residing with their mother if there is any risk that mothers partner will return to the family home. - (remember he owns the house)
to me obviously their is a risk yet for now the interim they have awarded more contact to me until the final hearing and advised shared care for now,
basically just after any advise and also how to word it in a statement about her not caring about the children by wishing to stay with abusive partner and made no plans to leave the house or address what the children have seen or been through in one of her statement she simply write I don't think the children are scared of him I am not
it's scary as this is it the one shot to change our children's life to give them a better future a real chance
any words of wisdom gratefully received - thanks
Hi Eric
It's good to hear from you.
Statements should contain all relevant information, remember you want the judge to read it and take it in, but if it is clouded by lots of stuff that doesn't need to be there then the important stuff gets lost.
I would definitely do a chronology as this provides a good overview of events.
Convictions have been successful in the courts when enough circumstantial evidence is presented and this is the best way for you to go.
Your first statement won't end up being the one you use, generally with each draft you will reduce and refine it.
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