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Hi everyone
I would be grateful for any advice on a situation that I now find myself in.
I have been divorced for 3 years now. I have been seeing my son on alternate days at the weekend and days in the school holidays over the year. This arrangement has usually worked well, and we have both been flexible in changing days when necessary.
However, before Xmas I introduced my son to my new girlfriend of 7 months. This was a very gentle introduction and done with my ex-wife's knowledge as I had discussed this before hand. My ex-wife also has a long-term partner with whom she now lives with. He seems to get on with my son so there are no concerns there.
It was from this point of meeting my new partner that my ex-wife seemed to change. Over the Xmas period she posted an offensive video of me on Facebook and to my phone and sent me abusive messages by text. She then accused me of sending her photos by mobile picture message of my new g/f and then of posting an intimidatory letter to her. She then became awkward and messed around with arrangements, changing these to a day I was not due to have him at the weekend. This caused a row, culminating in her refusing to speak to me.
I was concerned that my wife was trying to claim I was hassling and bullying her, and her controlling behaviour (to apply for some sort of order against me - totally unfounded as she was harassing me more than the other way round). It was for this reason that I spoke to the Police. They visited her and advised her the implication of sending abusive messages and to stop it, reaffirmed that I had advised that I had nothing to do with the photo's/intimidating letter.
She has now said that I should not contact her by any means/or visit her home or workplace. I am worried about contact with my son - should I simply tell her that I will pick him up at the weekend as is my turn as she has told me not to contact her but not mentioned anything about contact with our son ? I firmly believe that she is acting out of spite and is not happy that I have introduced our son to my partner/the involvement of the Police. I'm very sad at how things are, and the prospect of not seeing my son.
Sorry for the rambling post, but I want to give the full picture.
Any advice gratefully received ......
Thanks
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