[Solved] Positive news at last

So sorry to hear that Harli

I know only too well how wearing it is on the partners. At times, I've struggled too. The stress, sleepless nights, I could go on. As you know, we've also been going through this over 4 years and its shocking its allowed to continue for so long and we're still not past the finishing post.

The Court system sucks. So much for them claiming the welfare of the children is paramount. That's a load of bull. Its a money making exercise, that's the bottom line.

As long as the Courts remain "closed" then it will allow these terrible creatures to assert their abuse on the unsuspecting children and ex partners. The Courts need more accountability and to stand-by their orders and penal notices. It just makes a mockery of the whole system when they sit back and do nothing. I'm totally disgusted in my Partner's Ex's behaviour and I hope a big dose of Karma is ready to land on her.

I wish you the very best for your own future. You have been marvellous throughout.

Harli I don't know what to say I know you've been through so much supporting him.

Totally agree with Lollyrus. On 30th April Richard Burgon asked in parliament "To ask the secretary of state for justice, in how many cases one or more parents appearing in court hearings on the custody of their children have been unrepresented in each year since 2010".
The response from Lucy Frazer was "The information requested is not available as data on the legal representation of the parties is not broken down into different types of proceedings concerning children". This is a government that is perfectly capable of setting up systems that analyse people's incomes in the finest detail, audit huge companies income and expenditure down to the last penny, yet they can't (or more likely won't) produce simple statistics.

There should be absolute transparency with the family courts! They work for us! Having experienced first hand the shambles of the family courts I am utterly disgusted that we allow such a system to continue.

Well I said no more updates but I do get them even now and they need to be shared.

So the farce continues. By now indirect contact should be well underway. But the people Cafcass organised to facilitate it firstly said they couldn’t start work until June and now say they can’t offer that service anymore. Cafcass refuse to fund anyone else and suggested the parents pay someone or it’s back to court to see if a couple of preparatory sessions and then supervised direct contact would be acceptable as this wasn’t what the psychologist recommended and the guardian has concerns. The new guardian is very elusive and hasn’t been in contact other than through the children’s solicitor. Ex is now suggesting she organises indirect contact on her terms which the psychologists said she couldn’t be trusted to do. So yet more delays and the children are still in the sole custody of a woman who the court has agreed is guilty of alienation and emotional harm.

Thanks for the update Harli - just shows how much has been lost in that you don't really have any connection to this case any more, but obviously still care a lot about the outcome, and still keep us updated on here. All the best to you, and hopefully someday you can post some better news.

There is an agency that helps to facilitate contact and provide reports which was recommended to me by my solicitor when i was going thorugh courts.

I'm trying to find the name of if as i have posted it before...but i can't seem to find my previous posts.

If you would like the information please do let me know.

Found it...

www.theappropriateadultservice.org.uk

Hope it OK to post the link her. I@m not affiliated with them or have ever used them. But my solicitor at the time spoke very highly of them

Well the first session with the people facilitating contact wasn't very positive. No indirect access can be organised so just a few preparatory sessions with the children then straight into supervised direct contact (against the advice of the psychologist) but this can't happen for another 2 months (the psychologist wanted contact reestablished asap). Ex is to drop off and pick up (again against the advise of the psychologist) and he has been told if the children don't want to participate in contact the staff can't force or even try to persuade them. Past experience is at least one of the children will refuse to participate due to attachment issues identifed by the psychologist. Quite why the Guardian can't drop off is a question I would like to ask if I could. So more delays, very little help actually being offered and he stills feels he is the one on trial while ex plays the game and everyone forgets she is an evil alientor. Sickening.

Harli - two questions...

1) How did the psychologist get involved?
2) Have the courts taken any notice of the PA and how did you bring it to their attention?

I'm also now a victim of PA - my ex is telling our children all kinds of lies and I don't know what to do. A guardian and solicitor have also now been appointed.

Hi

So sorry you have to deal with PA now. Briefly, he has always alleged PA and the Guardian asked for a fact finding. At this the judge agreed the mother was guilty of PA and ordered a psychological assessment of all parties. I think the Guardian may have asked for this. Keep the Guardian onside if you can, sadly in his case she was blinded by the false allegations of abuse and totally taken in by the lying ex so never really helped him much. Interestingly she is now on long term sick, leave.

Good luck with your case

Harli

Did you communicate with the guardian or solicitor for the guardian outside of the courtroom?

Hi

All communication is via the solicitors. He hasn’t spoken to the Guardian in person. She made it clear she was acting for the children and had no responsibility for him. She wasn’t even interested when he tried to raise valid concerns about the children’s welfare. As I said she is now on ‘long term sick leave’ but the new guardian doesn’t seem much better. His fight just seems endless. Just when it feels it’s getting better he gets knocked back again. It’s beyond heartbreaking.

Harli

Its seems like another kick in the teeth, some Guardians are more than happy to work with the parents... surely part of acting for the children must involve their parents, as they are entwined.

I agree with you, it’s beyond heartbreaking. So sorry