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Hi Everyone
The hearing was yesterday and it was all good. Ex backed down totally, she really had no choice given the psychologists highly critical report. However, given her past behaviour I doubt she is genuinely sorry, she is just playing the game. Anyway, he’s getting indirect for a short time, then supervised direct (not at a contact centre), all funded by Cafcass and carried out by a professional body experienced in cases of PA, a review in July and then hopefully unsupervised contact after that.
I hope this is finally the end, this battle has cost heavily, we didn’t survive it. Courts and Cafcass really need to crack down on PA, it shouldn’t take 4 years, huge amounts of money and emotional trauma to convince a court. Ex has effectively ruined his life for 4 years and emotionally abused his children and walks away penalty free, she’s not got her own way which some may feel is punishment enough, but it’s really not ... am I bitter .... yes very.
That really good, if long overdue, news...Completely agree with you about the need for firmer handling and penalties for perpetrators of PA. I certainly don't feel that she's been punished for the [censored] shes put her children and their father through... in fact she should at least have been held up for contempt because of the lies she's told! No wonder you're bitter.
There's still a way to go, but at least the court have now recognised the truth of the situation. Thanks for updating us.
All the best
Very good to hear that the truth shines through the lies....long may it continue, well done.
Any chance you could PM me the details of the professional body you mention experienced in cases of PA that is being used, i could do with some help locating someone in my local area and if i can make contact with them then may be they will have an idea who in my location could assist.
i'm trying to make sure when i go back for the judgement hearing that i am armed with lists of organisations that could possibly help if the Judge goes the way i feel he was leaning to.
Thanks dad-i-d, I have sent you the details.
It’s good news but the price paid is high, 4 years of fighting ended our relationship, the children have emotional issues and he’s struggled with depression. Something has to change. Men can’t keep going through this.
Harli
Am so pleased to hear your news Harli, but understand why it so bittersweet. The system is far from perfect and more needs to be done to nip these cases in the bud early on. Not having magistrates sit in family hearings and having judicial continuity would be a start in my opinion.
Best of luck going forward.
So sorry to hear... Keep strong Harli, I'm sure he'll work out he couldn't have done it without you.
So sorry to hear that Harli. He was very lucky to have your help, and as Dad-i-d said - he will realise he wouldn't have been able to do this without you. Stay strong and wishing you luck for the future.
I'm so sorry to hear this Harli... you have been his rock and I'm sure he couldn't have got through it without your support.
Please do stay and continue to contribute, the knowledge and experience you have gained on this journey is invaluable... take care and stay strong.
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