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Could anyone advise me on this. I don't want to ring Cafcass if it's not needed.
The police checks have now been carried out for our court hearing, and although they have noted a caution my ex had 14 years ago, they haven't made a note of the three times I've called the police regarding harassment and verbal abuse over the last couple of years. I had to go in to the station a couple of times too, and they took down all the historic stuff that never got reported.
Should the court have this? Or is there a reason why this was left out?
That's something you will need to check with the police initially I would have thought. Do you have crime numbers for the incidents? Even if there was no further action, they should be logged on there as NFA incidents.
What stage are you in ? Section 2 safeguarding checks before a directions hearing or are CAFCASS preparing a Section 7 report ?
In my case those calls didn’t come up in the initial S2 safeguarding checks, but did come up during the later S7 report.
I've had the initial safeguarding assessment, which I'm guessing is the S2, and we've had the initial hearing. The police checks were requested for the S2 but have only just come through.
I have three police log numbers. I'm wondering whether to speak to the police (on their non emergency number I guess?) or hang fire. Ultimately, if these police logs should be noted, then I want them noted. They may not make a huge difference on their own, but it's a case of building the bigger picture of what's been going on.
I would ask my solicitor all this, but she's getting more and more slack with replying to my emails, doesn't answer the phone, and barely gives me any information or advice when I ask for it. This forum seems to be much more useful.
If it's relevant (depending what your ex is claiming) you can mention in your position statement that these incidents are not shown in the police checks so far.
Has a Section 7 Report been ordered? Is this what the police checks are part of? The order from the first hearing will mention a Section 7 if it's been ordered.
Sorry, I'm a bit unsure what a position statement is? Not the application my solicitor filed for court?
Yes, it is part of a Section 7 report.
Basically, I have taken my ex to court to sort out a lot of issues, including contact issues and ongoing verbal abuse and harassment. This abuse has made me very unwell (relapsing badly with my physical health - my GP has advised that contact with my ex is minimised if I have any chance of getting better - though Cafcass won't look at the GP's letter stating this) and we're trying to make that as clear to the court as possible in the hope that something can be done regarding my ex's behavior to give me a chance of recovery.
There's three police logs all regarding abuse and harassment that I've received when picking up and dropping my daughter home. My feelings are that they are relevant. What do you think, from a neutral perspective?
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