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hello
ive just had police call me to say another incident has happen they came over and said my oldest daughter have said i tried putting my hands around her neck.my ex told her solicitors aswell this
so say happened in nov 2012 but only now is she telling them that not included the time my ex said i did the same to her in dec (but this was told to the police first)
the police said they was not arresting me but i had to tell them what happened and i was under cauntion
the police said nothing is being done it just get filed because they look at it and say why did u leave it so long
also the police officer said when i pick up 2 of my kids from ex place of work i was being abusive to .her
told my solicitor and it does look bad now because there another person saying it as well now also that she is only 19yrs old
my ex is using every trick in the book and its looking now i dont stand a chance of getting resdience of 2 of my kids
On the face of it this certainly seems like your ex is trying to build up a history of DV allegations against you. these she will almost certainly throw at you even more at court.
Do you have legal representation or are you doing it yourself?
if you have legal rep then speak with them and ask for them to get the police to disclose there notes/records to the courts. if there are no real issues then you will be able to back up your side of events as she is now falsely claiming things just to add delay and prevent you seeing your children.
if you have no legal rep then i'd bring this to the attention of the judge and suggest the courts request full police disclosure....when you get the records go throught them carefully and use these to prove your side of things.
be careful and keep notes, records, everything on any event your ex tries to bring up, if you have any proof....emails text where she has been absuive to you keep these for court and use them to defend yourself.
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