[Solved] PLEASE SOME ADVICE ! THANKYOU !

ooooohhhhhh..........seems like you are feeling the wrath of an pregnant ex........it's not nice :huh:

I had exactly the same happen to me from the second my ex told me she was pregnant that was it she turned into he [censored] from [censored], she barred me from all the scans, the birth and I didn't see my daughter for the first 5 weeks of her life I got to see her for 4 weeks then she stopped contact again 9 months ago and I've not seen her since.

You do right in wanting to hit the floor running I wish I started court proceedings a lot earlier than I did so crack on mate but your ex will not agree to anything at all so i think you're going to have to suck it and see until your child has been born, a few women on this site may say aaahhh give her time she's pregnant her hormones are all over the place ect which they are but you don't stand a chance with a pregnant women they are [censored] on earth and they only get worse and worse and worse.

It's cool that you've found this site pretty soon too I wish I did so start formulating your plan of attack and start preparing your case whilst she is going through the pregnancy it will keep your mind off things.

Be very carefull about the communication you have do not reply to any texts nastily, make ANY threats what so ever be whiter than white so she has absolutely nothing on you as she will try her best to slap a harrasment order on you and be prepared for all sorts of false allegations.

Unfortunately the court process is the biggest ball ach going and it's so slow so you do right in getting in there early my babys nearly one and Ive missed out on the first whole year of her life it's tragic and I'm really starting to struggle man.

I really hope she comes round mate you sound pretty confident and ready for battle so all the best to you 🙂

Slim

Oh mate sorry to hear about ur situation ... what a nitemare !

So are you pretty much saying that until the kid is born i cant do anything ?? I kinda want to get the mediation thing out the way .. cos i know that a lawyer would try this approach first .... so maybe i can try it while she pregnant and if she knocks that back then its been done and out of the way before the kid is born !

That way if i have to take her to court i can start the day i hear the kid is here .... 😉

Im even thinking that i dont even have to go to a lawyer just yet.. maybe contact a mediation centre near her, have them attempt mediation then if she turns it down then i will have proof for a lawyer and for the courts that i tried the mediation road without any success and had to start court action 😉

I'm not to sure if you can go for mediation if the childs not born but I'm sure someone else will advise on this but it seems like a good plan what you are intending 🙂

good advice from slim mate.

I think its a good idea for you to go to a mediator now as well. Some women, depending on how reasonable they are just need something official to get the ball rolling and reason to ensue. Some of us aren't that fortunate though.

Even if she ignores it, the chances are you would have to try mediation again in the eyes of the law after the child was born I guess possibly although im no expert. If she ignores the 1st pre birth mediation, I would actually get a solicitor to write to her before the birth. Although its expensive, at this point it would really just be 1 letter so probably 250 quid or so. This will help you possibly on two fronts. Either, its officialness might force your ex into communication and reason where the mediator failed and at the very least you have two pieces of evidence to start afresh with post birth, the attempted mediation and the solicitors letter which will both illustrate a desire to be a father from the very beginning. Id get them to make the precise point that you are keen to be registered on the birth certificate as the childs father as you are keen to assume parental responsibility. that way if she goes ahead and does it without you, when you apply to the court to have it granted, you can produce this letter which backs up your application and shows a desire well in advance of the childs arrival to be responsible.

Something showing you trying to do the right thing even before your child is born would I think go down very well in mediation/court/cafcass involvement and would prevent her from suggesting you weren't interested at a later point.

good luck

Bang on advice from broken dad there like mate 🙂

Thanks for the great advice guys !

Much appreciated !!! 😉