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So anyone reading my posts will know i had unsupervised contact with child for two years overnight stays etc holidays phone calls then was stopped with no reason mom made false allergations up which i had proof they where false so while going thru court for a year and a half i decided to end proceddings and wait for my child to find me my child said they didnt want to see me and i had told court that child was turned against me by mom but the court overllooked this i was told to undertake therapy and was told social services will take over case but i did not want them involved thats when i took a step back and thought its not fair on my child having to be intetviewed by lots of people when non of these cafcass or social had any clue about parental aliention and when i asked social worker at interview what can they do to help they said if child doesnt want to go they will go with child and even tho i told them that child has been brainwashed told to make up lies by mom the social worker said as long as child sticks to therestory and mam then they have to believe them at face value and i asked what about if theres proof and i was told it doesnt matter which i thought was shocking so i got a court letter saying please dont make fresh application until ive had therapy even if i think i dont need to do it i have to do it then i can make a fresh application but the reason im thinking of going back is cause it is killing me not seeing my child i didnt want social involved cause i dont care what people say they really are bad so ive nearly completed my therapy and dont know what to do i stopped all this not because i wanted to but because of all the people coming into childs life and then social services want to do a fao for 12 months when they cant do [censored] apart from believe a child who has been brainwashed so i thought of my child and put child first to stop these strangers and all this [censored] going on while mom saying il do what ever the court says trying to be like an angel when shes poisoning childs mind behind closed doors even people who know ex have told me and even child has told me mom says bad stuff about me to myself but people are prob thinking so if i put a fresh app in to court after what ive wtitten whats it going to do different when this on and off has been going on for nearly 11 years but the truth is its killing me i fear my child wont find me im lost without child in life .i dont know if putting a fresh app in to court if its like another csfcass officer having a second opinion or if it would be the same outcome but surely if cafcass are cracking down on parental alienation surely someone else can look at it and see whats going on sometimes i think i got a really dumb cafcass officer who was blind any advice would be great i know nobody can say what to do but any advice would be apprieciated will check for comments tomoro thanks guys
I am no expert. But my gut feeling says do exactly what the court tells you. It sounds like it will take some time, so be patient.
Even if you don't agree with court, do it because you need to show you are responsible and sensible person that they can trust.
I think if you suspect child alienation it is better that your child is assessed by professionals right now, before lasting damage. I would have thought social services / CAFCASS would do that.
Once you have a psychological assessment of your child, only then you will need to go back in court.
Can you afford a barrister for he court? I would recommend that. Also a good McKenzie friend would help to walk you through the process and do the paper work.
So sorry you are going through all this. My guy had a fact finding and the judge found that the mother and step father had both alienated the children. He is now waiting for psychiatrists to talk to the children and suggest how this alienation can be reversed. Could you ask for a fact finding? I think his was requested by the useless Cafcass guardian who was out to prove he was everything his evil ex said he was, sadly for her, she’s now on extended ‘sick leave’ it proved he was nothing of the sort. Good luck woth whatever you decide to do.
Harli
This woman makes things easy to understand.
You need this : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FGgklkfSYUk&t=1584s
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