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I have been served a Non-molestation order ex parte which has been made with false allegations of abuse and quotes that I’m going to hurt her , do bad things , coming for her etc. and she’s applying for herself and on behalf of our 5 year old claiming I’m a threat to her and my child’s safety . This is following many attempts by me via email to get ex to comply with the child arrangements order as she has constantly breached it without reasonable excuse . She made the application for the nmo the day after I told her I’d be applying to the court for a enforcement of the order.
I’m so shocked this has been put through with no evidence , she is weaponising the process to get legal aid and wants me out of my child’s life completely - I have been dealing with parental alienation for the last 2 years through bad mouthing me to my child and withdrawing contact dependent on her mood .She has done this before when the cao was put into place . I had a solicitor back then but cannot afford one now . I have no idea what to do or how to respond - there is a hearing date given for 2 weeks time.
I’m devastated and haven’t seen my child for a month , it’s having a seriously detrimental effect on my mental and physical health and I don’t know how I can fight this , I experienced an extremely bias approach in favour of the mother the last time everything was in court - they dismissed everything my solicitor put forward as evidence of her violence and abuse towards me . I am scared I will lose access to my son if this nmo is granted as I can’t see how I will collect him for contact not being allowed anywhere near either of them !
My girlfriend has started helping me with a statement addressing the false allegations and also going back through correspondence to print off in support of my claims this is all being made difficult by her. There are a couple of heated txt exchanges where I’ve regrettably called her a horrible name but other than that I can’t see how she could have any supporting evidence of her claims - the messages are me asking her to leave me alone and stop calling / txting me and to keep communication about our child.
if anyone can share their experience or give me an idea of what I should do now it would be greatly appreciated. Thank you
Hi,
Please listen to this: https://youtu.be/JFmMm-o_NE8
NMO does not prevent you from making enforcement application. Perhaps another person can be involved in handovers, when collecting/dropping kids?
ok thanks will take a look . I have suggested that family members help with handovers .
I just don’t know what I should be doing now ? Appealing or waiting for hearing or contacting the court ? I have no idea
Hi,
If you have hearing for non molestation order, then I think you should attend. If you have applied for enforcement, then can wait for hearing date. Could take few weeks to get a date.
Yes I intend to attend - my question is what should I do beforehand if anyone can advise please . The enforcement order is a separate issue and I imagine depends on the outcome of the NMO
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