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I sptil you with my ex about 3 years ago just after our son was born . And ever since then she has always said where and what I can do with our son. She have even stopped my mum from see his and they do not get on. I am now with a different lass and we have had a baby together. My ex has said that the two kids will not meet and my gf will never meet my other son. She says she has a legal right to do this is it right. And also she says if I take it to court they will pull up all the stuff about our relationship it this true aswell thanks
Hi Bud,
You need to file for a contact order (C100) straight away. Youre in the same boat that the majority of us on here have been. Get the process started asap. You can even print the forms out yourself and also fill out the remission form for the court charges if you qualify. Theres no doubt that your ex will make you look as bad as she possibly can, we've all been there. But once you get your Order in place, the time that is allocated to you is for you and your child. And it will be up to you whether your two children will spend time together or not. CAFCASS will get involved, and there will be alot of mud slinging going on (I had it too) but allegations need to be proven as courts hear those sorts of allegations all of the time.. Stay positive, stay focused.
Danny
Hi there
If you wish to apply for a Child Arrangements Order for contact you will need to attend mediation first, this is now compulsory before a court application can be submitted. Here's a link to the mediation service
www.nfm.org.uk
If you are on benefits or a low income funding is still available for mediation. And you can check eligibility here
www.gov.uk/check-legal-aid
Unfortunately legal aid is no longer available for legal representation in private family law cases but many here choose to self represent. It is very doable and you will get plenty of advice and support here. There are a number of iseful stickys about this and the court process generally, which you will find at the top of the legal eagle section.
Yes, but dont get discouraged if your ex refuses to do mediation. My daughters mum refused and so we moved on to the hearing for contact. In fact in my case Im happy that she did refuse mediation as anything solely worked out between ourselves would not have been sustainable as she is a very uncooperative person and would never have stuck to anything we would have agreed on in mediation.
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