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Hello guys,
My ex and I have made a arrangement where I can see little one twice a week for two hours, supervised by her mum, to be reviewed around Christmas, it would be a massive lie if I said I was happy about this, but reading about what some of the other guys on here have to put up with I have accepted it, especially as he is very young.
She is still insistent however that I will never be named on the birth certificate, I have explained to her that I will need to go to the courts, my question is when should I start this process? Earlier the better or wait for 6 months 1 year etc?
Thanks for the advice
Jon
now mate because it will only affect a contact order which tbh id also make
Hi,
I would say earlier the better. Courts kind of frown on a parent not being around for a period of time without good reason. I got legal advice a while back and all odds were against me, the only thing i had going for me was the fact i had been around on the scene consistently. Being named on the birth certificate by the respondent doest matter, the court will give you PR and it counts as the same thing.
Paul
Hello,
Thanks for the advice, just a quick point, I thought if the court ordered parental responsibility then I could take that order to the registry office and get the birth certificate changed, is that not the case?
Hi there
Being granted PR doesn't really make any difference to things like contact or involvement in a child's life, so its a matter of weighing up the impact of taking it to court and the negative effects it may have on your relationship with your ex. Unfortunately, the amount of contact is in her hands, as is where it takes place.
Whilst your child is very young it's worth going along with the mother, but if things don't change after six months or so, I would strongly suggest mediation and if that fails, an application to court for a Child Arrangements Order. At that point you can also apply for Parental Responsibility and once you have that you can apply to Re-register the birth and have your name added. To do so you would need form GRO185 to do that.
Perhaps attempting mediation, might be helpful for you both to try and reach agreement, also a working on a Parenting Plan together can also assist parents in realising that the involvement of both parents is what is best for the child.
Best of luck
This may help with a parenting plan http://dadinfo.splittingup-putkidsfirst.org.uk/home
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