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Hey All,
So, As per court order i'm calling nursery and GP to get info on my son and get added as next of kin. Today, I made those calls, this is what happened.
1) G.P were made aware of situation when all this kicked off, they asked for a court order to prove P.R and told me the birth cert was not enough. (odd)
2) Attended the G.P with court order to try and gain access, to medical records and to be added as next of kin. They told me to fill out a form to request medical records and they would see what they could do.
3) Today I called the G.P and they are now calling a meeting. They do not wish to allow me as next of kin on his records as they do not know their legal position on this matter,. I will take court order again with me.
4) Called the nursery today to arrange a meeting to get sons records and see how he's doing, they had no idea who I was and that they had no record of me EVEN THOUGH my ex asked for some particulars of mine for his school records. They want to invite my ex to the meeting as they do not know me and their reason also was that they have been dealing with her. I stated I have a court order and do NOT wish for her to attend as that last time I saw her I feared for my own safety. They need to call me back they said.
I'm so angry, i seem to be just fighting one battle after another for just my and my sons rights. How on earth is this fair.
In my next life I'm coming back as a woman, I swear it....!!!! i'm soooo beeping mad!
For me when I was faced with this I had similar issues.
Several phone calls, emails to the Local Area Heath Authority – went above the practice manager as they were doing the same as yours…..meeting to discuss.
I had to send copies of birth cert, my proof of who I am (passport, driving licence, utility bills etc…) and had to send these several times.
I eventually put a complaint in against the practice manager for their refusal to accept the court order and proof I had provided for PR. It took me almost a year to get that and I’ve still not seen medical records as I have to apply on a form to get access, although I am now on next of kin list for my son.
The school was totally different, I made an appointment to see the Head and took the same proof my son’s birth certificate, my proof of ID plus the court order and several others.
They did say they would have to speak with their legal advisors but I got a polite email a few weeks later saying it was all now sorted and I was on their next of kin list.
My situation was a little more detailed than yours as my ex changed our son’s surname to match hers (twice now!) but the courts stopped that as she had acted without my approval/authorisation and both the Doctors and the School had taken her at her word and not contacted by for authorisation either.
If the doctors causing delays ask them for the details of the local area heath authority, get in touch with them and raise a complaint against the surgery/practice and manager of that.
Don’t let them fob you off.
Similarly the School - write to the board of governors – but also approach the local area education authority complain against the head and the school.
Yes it can take ages but its all to do with “Red tape” these days…..they cannot just take your word they similarly they shouldn’t just take your ex’s word either.
I have to agree with you about the “coming back as a female” comment (in as non-sexist tone as I can) We fathers seem to really get the “shitty” end of the stick and are guilty until proven innocent in most cases. It makes it very hard to trust again.
It's really annoying
I work in a school, know the red tape well, so upon my call to them made myself as flexible as possible.
My only request I asked for was not to talk to my ex just yet, until we had the meeting.
They call me back and tell me they need to make her aware that we are having a meeting. My response was that in that case would they be willing to ensure they contact me when my ex has a meeting? --- No!
The mother was the one whom enrolled our son and therefor has the main reasonability. The nursery don't obviously deal with this too often.!!!! -- They will be enlightened in due course by way of court order.
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