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right were to begin. av got a shared care order with my ex for my son, i recently found out my ex is working all hours ab not there for my son an is leaving him with his olderly grandparents most of the time an not in her care.
am at the point now were i want to go bk to court to raise this issue as i feel i should he lookin after my son an not her parents if she can not do it her self. me an my partner would not be able to come to an arrangement our selfs.
she has already broke the court order twice an it only being 8 weeks old.
but i just dont know what to do. anyone got any advice
Hi there
When you say that the grandparents are elderly, that doesn't automatically make them unsuitable, many families where both parents work use extended family to help out with childcare and it wouldn't be something that the court would neccessarily consider that much of a problem, unless they had health problems. It would also depend how often they are left with your son.
When you say that she has broken the court order twice so far, you could try writing a formal letter to her reminding her that she must abide by the order or risk a return to court for enforcement. You could also mention that you would like to be the first preference for extra care with your son and that you feel it would be in his best interests to spend more time with you rather than with the grandparents all of the time. Suggest that you put together a revised schedule for the times that she is unable to look after him. Express your gratitude to her parents but also your concern that as he gets older they may find these duties harder and it would be better for all to make alternative arrangements.
If you decide on this course of action make sure you keep a copy for your records and send it with proof of postage. If you need to return to court this will show that you had tried to resolve issues before returning it to court.
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