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sorry i posted this under welcome to the forum so if admin can delete that post....thank you
So my story continues...
Had an urgent hearing yesterday for a prohibited steps order to stop my ex leaving the country with our son permanently as she has family in Ireland and has a holiday planned next week
judge would not grant the order but did make her take an undertaking to the court that she must return with the child on her return date and the undertaking will last until our fhdra in 5 weeks and supply me with all details of where she is staying
Asked the judge about my c1 application and she said she didn't have it although a copy had been sent back to me....so i shall phone the court Monday but what hearing will that be decided?
also had paperwork land today for the non molestation contested hearing set for 20th November!!!
she supplied a statement to court yesterday saying ive hardly ever saw the child when ive got 1000s of pictures of him and he only 2, also that she is in a stable relationship....we only broke up 4 weeks ago lol
so now im deflated about the fhrda and she gonna do everything to block me even though we have no police involvement whatsoever and i already with 3 children permanently from a previous relationship which is upsetting them because they cant see their brother...especially my eldest boy who is mentally disabled and doesn't understand all this nastiness 🙁
even got recorded phonecalls with her stating she will never stop me seeing my son...so suppose thats some evidence that will burn her 🙂
The C1 should be addressed at the next hearing, although if your Non Mol hearing isn't until the end of November, it's possible that any hearings concerning your child will be adjourned until the non mol is finalised.
You can prepare a brief position statement for the next hearing, disputing what she has said about your relationship with your child and your point that her relationship is hardly stable after only 4weeks, also that your other children are missing their sibling, particularly the distress it's causing to your eldest child.
You won't be able to attach any evidence, such as photos of your child, or transcripts of the recorded phone calls that you have, but you can mention that you have them and can make them available to the court.
so suppose thats some evidence that will burn her 🙂
I think you need to be careful with this mindset. You are now in a process that is biased against you and in favour of the mother. The only exception to that is when the mother is negligent or in some way harms the child, but that's an exception, not the rule.
As tough as it is to swallow, the better your relationship with her, the better your relationship with your son will be. So I'd be wary of trying to "burn her". It will harm your relationship with your son.
the relationship between me and the mother is dead as it can be and she only now trying to block all contact with him
why would the non molestation interfere with contact hearing? to see if domestic violence is proved? because theres no fact or finding on the non mol and it only staes i cannot contact mother...my son is not mentioned so dont know why contact hearing would be affected because contact could be done through 3rd party which is what i want anyways
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