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My partner pays his ex wife child maintenance (amount determined by CMS) and spousal maintenance (agreed in court) in total~ £600/month. He has never been late with any payment, for 2 children aged 7 and 11. He also bears the total transports costs of having the kids every weekend ~£160/month.
She spends pretty much every penny on herself with her clothes, takeaway food and her hobbies (she spends several HUNDRED pounds a month)
His ex wife refuses to spend money on the kids, so much so that she has not bought any shoes, clothes or paid for a single haircut etc in the last year. The kids are often hungry by the time we collect then on Friday evenings.
She expects him to cover all the costs of secondary school uniform for September. We simply cannot afford to pay for it all - and why should we when he is giving her that money already?
Is there any way that we can get (force) her to pay for half the school uniform costs and actually spend the CMS money on the kids?
Hi There,
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Welcome to the fourm.
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When child maintenance and spousal maintenance are paid to an ex, you aren't able to say where the money is spent, it's completely unfair in my oppinion, but there is no way of doing it.
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I would say though that your partner has no obligation to spend any further money out of his pocket for uniforms or clothes for his children whilst they are with his ex, if he buys clothes for when they are with you, you can keep them at your home and send them back in what they wore when they arrived.
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I know this isn't a great answer, but if your partner doesn't pay for the uniform what would the ex do?
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GTTS
It will be difficult to do, but call her bluff and stop paying for uniforms and haircuts etc tell her she must pay with the maintenance.
She will exploit you both and the second you cave in and start buying stuff then she will just continue....
As suggested above, anything you buy keep at your house for their next visit.
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