[Solved] Not able to see my Daughter

Hi Locky,

in interview you may be asked how the break-up happened. then will mention the allegations your ex made, are they true? admit if its true. deny false allegations.

the interview might last 1-2 hours. most important part is when they ask you what contact you would like with your child.

one thing my cafcass officer did, was a day before she finished the report, she emailed me some doc called parenting styles. she asked me to answer all the questions in it. and she used the info to write the report. maybe you can ask about that. i still have that somewhere. PM me and i can send to you if you want.

if you dont have a criminal record, things should go easy for you. just say you used to smoke weed, and now you stopped, for the sake of your child. say that weed dealer stuff is load of nonsense.

as for FB stuff, I would just advise you to ignore it. block your ex, so you don't see the nonsense.

Thanks Bill

Will email you privately and I don't have CR so that good to be honest I'm a good Lad, had my 1st visit with my daughter yesterday all went well so really happy spoke to my baby mum and she said she going to ask the court to give me one night and one day next time I just said ok, as that not what I'm wanting I want alternative weekends and one day in week just not sure what the courts will decide when the reports are completed, appreciate your feedback as it reassuring thanks 🙂

Hi Locky,

yep I agree with you. what ex offered about 1 night and 1 day, thats good, but only for temporary and its not good enough as long term arrangment. you need full weekends with your child to take them on days out etc. i will just post that cafcass parenting style questionnaire here shortly...

this is the questionnaire the cafcass officer sent me. and she used my answers to help her write her section 7 report about me.

Tool for parenting knowledge and style

1. Why do babies cry?

2. How would you respond to the different types of crying?

3. What physical needs does a child have as s/he is growing up?

4. What emotional needs does a child have as s/he is growing up?

5. What educational needs does a child have as s/he is growing up?

6. How do you think children learn?

7. What kind of things do you think are naughty?

8. What things can a parent do when a child is naughty?

9. Would you ever smack your child? If so, what for?

10. Do you think children like to be cuddled? If so, when would you cuddle them?

11. Do you think that children should know that parents are ‘in charge’?

12. If so, how would you let your children know you were in charge?

12. Should parents encourage imaginary play with small children, for example, having a tea party?

13. Should parents join in?

14. At what age do you think children would want to stop playing at having tea parties or imaginary play?

15. How often do you think parents should play with children?

16. How long do you think a child of 12 months will concentrate on one game/thing/activity?

17. Why do you think they can concentrate for that long?

18. At what age do you think children should be allowed to go to the shop alone?

19. When should children be allowed to have boyfriends/girlfriends?

20. When should children be allowed to stay up until 10.00pm?

21. At what age should children be allowed to stay in the house alone?

22. At what age should children be allowed in the kitchen unsupervised?

23. At what age should children be allowed a say in important family decisions – for example, whether a new partner should be allowed to move into the house?

24. How old should children be before they are allowed pocket money?

25. How old should a child be before they are told about contraception, masturbation, safe [censored]?

26. Is there an age when you think children should be allowed to watch pornographic films?

(Fowler, adapted)

Thank you