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Hi I'm wanting some advice I've recently broken up with partner and we have a 5 month baby girl, I had my own flat but spent a good majority of time at her sister who lives with her partner and 2 kids and another sister lives there, I was been emotionally and mentally abused by all the family for the time I was there and if I wanted out I was threatened with never seeing my daughter, I left the environment 2 weeks ago as I was suffering mentally and it wasn't healthy for me to live, I asked my ex partner to come but she wants to stay at her over over crowed mums.
I have a good supportive mum and step dad who have always been there for me I also suffer from ADHD and Autism, I asked to see my daughter and was told no the only way was that I came to her sister house for supervised visit? I did not agree and didn't feel that it was apprioate to spend quality time with my daughter in that environment, I went to see a medaeator the other day and they had asked for my ex to come, she declined and had seen a solicter so saying that she wasn't coming reasons where that I had emotionally abused her? This is a lye and the accusations are not true, it's me that suffered, again she said I could only have supervised access.
I now have appointment with a solicter and court paper work, I'm so upset and concerned and that I'm not getting to see my daughter while this is taking place, does anyone understand the process and time frame and what to do about her accusations about me and cost as I'm on a low income.
Also I took all my daughter equipment up to her sister house (I've not asked for them back) I have proof that I purchased all baby stuff as I need for my daughter if I get access in the flat, if anyone can help I would appreciate I'm 21 years old and going out my mind that I'm unable to see her or my mum.
Thank you for reading
Hi,
Best option is to apply for C100 - children arrangement order. Means you would have to go to court.
I made mistake and got solicitors to complete form. Save your money - this org will do it for you for free -
Check their site for office local to you. They give great advice. All free
Mediation people should be able to sign you off, to apply for c100, as your ex refused mediation.
Hi
Thanks for reply, booked mediation last Friday unfortunately my ex wouldn't come and got a solicter and to add hurt said that I've emotionally abused her ( I had to live the majority of my time at he sisters and boyfriends and 2 kids also her other sister lives there) just so I could see my little baby, it was me that was been emotionally abused that why I left, hurts.
My ex is wanting supervised visits at her sisters house I said no, as I don't want to be in that environment it's not healthy ( they all smoke in front of my baby aswell, just found out they have given her an asmatha pump (not good)
The mediation lady told me not to worry as the truth will come out and gave me C100 form? Thanks for link as I'm struggling to understand (dyslexia) my mum helps me out, so your advice helps loads.
Thanks
thats so horrible about the baby and the asthma pump, if i were you, I would complain to social services about this.
I'm going to contact them as I'm really worried and thanks for the link looked at it I'm going to drop in tomorrow see if they can help me thanks
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