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Hi,
I applied for a non-molestation order against my ex partner after her family were harassing me after our separation.
We agreed to a cross undertaking.
However 3 months later, the nmo is making things difficult as we have a young daughter and the undertaking is very awkward. My ex won’t drop it as she is using the cross understaking as leverage now
if I drop the undertaking, would that remove it from both of us or just me? Seen as we have a cross undertaking?
Btw it is my application for a NMO in the first place
Hi, does nmo make any exception, like allow communication for purpose of child arrangements? If so can keep it in place
Cross undertakings are usually promises to not do things that you shouldn't do anyways e.g Harass, stalk, pester or intimidate eachother.
What does the court expect? You both go be child focused and make smooth and professional handovers.
Being petty or using cross undertakings to refuse contact will put either of you in a very negative light.
Child arrangements supercede cross undertakings.
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