[Solved] Non molestation order & prohibited steps

Hello,

Just an update on the case. I have my hearing tomorrow, I am nervous but looking forward to finally having some closure with this court stuff.

I called cafcass and they have no knowledge of this case and that the court has not instructed them to do anything. So cafcass should not be there tomorrow.

My ex has had her legal aid refused so she is representing herself now. She even contacted me and asked me to help prepare her statement

Hi There,
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Good luck for tomorrow, let us know how it goes.
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GTTS

Good luck for tomorrow.

So has the hearing yesterday and I did walk away happy but it was very tough experience. We was in the court room for nearly 2 hours.

As cafcass didn't do there s2 report in time the judge immediately wanted to adjourn the case until January. I wasn't happy with this and started to make my case. The judge did not want to put undertakings in place of the non-mol order. I ended up staying that my sons right to see his father is being be taken away.

The judge was admiment that without the cafcass report she would not endorse any agreement between myself and Sophie. I then stated that ex had provided no evidence and all this is based on a statement from her which I deny any allegations. I told the judge that I would agree to any undertaking apart from restrictions to attend my sons school. She said that she could not risk my sons safety without cafcass. I then produced a document from my gp to say I was no risk to self harm or anybody else. The tables started to turn at that point and the judge became abit more sympathetic towards me.

I put a question to my ex asking if she believed that I was a risk to My son physically or emotionally? She then responded with no he is brilliant father. I then stated that herself was also a brilliant mother.

The judge issued 10 undertakings which are all criminal offences anyway and I made the judge clearthat I am not admitting any guilt and this is to should not be used against me. The orders were removed and I felt immediately a sense of relief.

We had the issue of contact which we were in agreement. I suggested to the judge that we could sit in a room in the court and come up with a agreement regarding contact, school and Xmas arrangements. Which we did and was very successful for both of us.

We have to return to court in January as to here the cafcass but the judge said if the reports come back with no safeguarding issued the court will endorse the contact and that would be the end of it.

Also the undertaking will end in January. She said this is a opportunity for both of you to co parent and prove to the court that you can do this. She asked us both to provide a statement on how contact was going and give it to the court before the next hearing.

I am picking my son up from school this afternoon and I couldn't be more happy with the outcome.

Thank you to everyone for your support and knowledge

Hi There,
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Well done, it sounds as though you stood your ground and havee managed to get what should be the start of aa good arrangement,
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Thank you for keeping us up to date.
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GTTS

An excellent result, and well done for what you achieved 🙂

Hello all, back at court tomorrow morning for the FHDRA meeting. Still no contact from cafcass.

Myself and ex have been getting along fine. My relationship with my son has been brilliant and even spent the whole Christmas holidays together as a family.

I have submitted a statement to the court stating that there had been no issues and that I'm happy for the contact to continue. My concern is that it will be adjourned again but will have to see what happens.

Will keep you updated.

That's great and to be honest, whether CAFCASS file their report or not, contact seems established and your relationship with your ex has improved. If you do have to return to court again it will be a minor invonvenience in the grand scheme of things. Well done 🙂