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Hi need alot of advice never been in this postion be4...short story my wife of over 5 years walked out on me and my boy 4 weeks today...she has alot of previuos alcohol and drugs addition plhs mental health problems...becayse of her behaviour i refused her any access to our son.. so she went to social services and told them id been beating my son and my wife..social had to get involved but my son was left with me as they didnt believe a word as i had been his main provider care wise since he was born because of her mental illness'es.. so they doing what they need to do..since then on friday morning i got served a non-molestation order by my wife...claiming i had done alot of nasty things to her including rape etc...this was nade 10 days be4 u got served it..i had no idea..social are aware of the order and are fully backing me.. i want to know where i stand, what kind of evidence im aloud to provide...all her family and school are fully on my side and backing me as they know its a load of lies.. please help!!!!!
I would imagine if you have documented proof of the issues your ex partner has then that would be good evidence to provide, any written emails texts etc... you can use to help you.
if Social services are involved and back you then they must have reports on her too, i'd be ensuring you have any info you have available ready to show in court.
i would start getting all info together ready and have ready to show in court at the Non-Mol hearing that you'll be given. if you've done nothing wrong then fight it and with the proof you have it should be straight forward, however, if she puts on a good acting performance you may need to prepare for a harder fight.
the guys n girls here have way more experience than i do and i'm sure someone will be along soon to advise further.
Update..social services have now sent in a report requesting they turn the order around to protect me and my son... also there are recommending that she no longers see's her son..currently gathering my evidence awaiting the court date.
Hi there
I think, with the involvement with SS in your case and their recommendations that the order be set aside, you are in a good position.
Are you going to court in relation to her contact with your son? It might be advisable to apply for an emergency Prohibited Steps Order (PSO) and a Child Arrangements Order (CAO) for your son to live with you. The PSO will prevent her from removing him from your care in the future, and the CAO will give you the security that your son stays with you.
These new applications could be added to the existing case, by using form C2 , which would save time. Do you have a date for the court case about the NMO?
All the best
Sounds positive that SS are on side and hopefully the courts will see it the same way.
Fingers crossed for you Daddyson
It sounds as though her actions have seriously backfired on her. Don't take anything for granted (prepare for the worst, hope for the best) but I have experience of a badly alcoholic ex who couldn't believe that she could do anything wrong, and she was sure that everyone would believe her, and it ended very badly for her, and very well for my kids and I.
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