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My ex girlfriend has taken out a non molestation order against me.
I originally contested it, but then gave in and allowed it to go through after I realised she would lose her son, my step son to social services.
Our relationship was mainly good but had turbulent patches.
She had me arrested a total of 3 times for assault.
I would like to say that did not lay a hand on her until the 3 time when i was forced to defend myself.
Please don’t think I’m weak or anything but I honestly thought she was going to kill me.
Anyway the CPS on all 3 occasions dismissed with no case to answer.
I know that i have to live with the order now but that also means I can’t see my stepson.
I just want guys to understand that it’s not just women who suffer domestic abuse, unfortunately the court will still invariably rule in their favour.
I miss my boy & i have been told she’s getting him to tell people things that aren’t true:(
Hi there
I’m sorry to hear that you’re suffering, it’s distressing to lose contact with a child , whether they’re biologically yours or not. How long were you in his life?
We have had non bio Dads apply to court for contact, but if it’s been a long time since contact that might set a precedent.
All the best
hello
I have just noticed your post
I am in a similar situation, where my wife has non molestation and occupation order against me
Judge did not accpet the udertaking
no its listed for direction hearin and then contested hearing
I do not want to contest simply but do not know what would happen if i do not attend contested hearing
what would happen to molestation order and finances as i am paying all the bills
can you please tell me or help here
i have one 4 year old boy, can i not see him if there is a non molestation order or occupation order against me
thanks
You can give the court a call and ask them if you can write an email/letter to the court, to say that you accept the NMO and the occupation order and ask for permission to withdraw from the case and not attend any further hearings.
However if you want the court to discuss child contact, it might be better to make a new application under the existing proceedings for a Child Arrangements Order.
With the injunctions against you, the contact side of things will be slowed down whilst the court makes all the safeguarding checks.
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