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I normally went to my ex house to pick up the children but my ex came out first. I remained in the car and wound the window down and we had a conversation but soon this turned into a heated row. One child approached the car so I said to my ex enough send me an email and wound the window up. She then tried to get into my car by opening my car door. I said no and locked the door but my child had come around the car and opened the passenger door which opened my door. Again my ex tried to get into my car , she did this twice more. This is something that happened a while back also.
My daughter was shaken as she kind of saw what was going on. I do not know why my ex was trying to get into my car or what she would have accomplished had she done so.
She is on legal aid allegedly for domestic abuse from me although i stress there was none and never any police involvement. So that continues to baffle me
So ... Is this enough to go for non molestation order ? I dont want this to happen again in front of any of the children.
Hi Cartmell
I don't know if it would be enough to obtain a non-mol unless you have proof of other incidents but as a first point of call, I would certainly inform the police and social services and inform your ex in writing that you will be taking the matter further.....
why wouldn't it be enough? i mean....if he was trying the same to get in to her car or house the police would've been round straight away! seems that most guys tend to think very little of things like what she tried there....and just don't report it for fear of the ex then stopping contact with the kids!
i didn't report things that happened to me in my relationship....when i tried to after being threatened i was told by the police...."do you really want to report this? it could make things worse"
i didn't and it got worse and she did this to me for calling her "silly" and a "stupid cow" and refusing to leave the family home because of that!
that's just it, I honestly don't know if it will be enough because that would be for the court to decide, cartmell should definitely inform the police and social services as a first port of call though.....some non-mols are pushed through ludicrously easily (either [censored]) and others dismissed.....only cartmell can decide if he wants to go down that route
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