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A few weeks ago, my ex-partner applied for a non-molestation order against me. It came as a surprise, because when I received the notification, I had been seeing my son multiple times a week.
The notification arrived less than a week before the hearing. Her statement was extensive. I spent the next 5 days working on my response, literally day and night, collating as much evidence as I could to contradict her arguments, mostly based on emails she had written herself. My solicitor was really engaged in helping me drafting a response, although that did come at a high financial cost. My response statement was sent to my ex-partner's solicitor the day before the hearing. I believe normally the court would expect this to be done sooner, but because the extensiveness of her statement and the short notice with which I received it, this was simply not possible.
On the day of the hearing, my barrister asked if I wanted to give an undertaking. I said no. He suggested to my ex-partner that we agree to a consent order by recital. She agreed to it, and so did the court. It was a rather expensive ordeal, but in the end I left with no order against me which was a positive outcome.
Keep strong and don't give in to bullies.
That's great to hear! Thanks for sharing.
quick question please is a non mol, a pin? or have i got it wrong,
They are different things.
NMOs are issued by courts after a case has been heard in a full trial. If the person is later found to have breach the order, penalties can be applied that range from fines to prison.
Police Information Notices are issued by the police. I'm not sure how much evidence is required before one is issued. They can later be used in court to prove that a respondent knew that a certain behaviour was harassment.
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