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This is the issue you are going to face. If she refuses an under taking, you will have to contest it or accept the non mol. You can choose to accept it on a no admissions basis too. This means the non mol will be put in place but with no facts or findings made against you.
If she is making things up and you can prove it, for example, the messages she said you sent her. Then you should contest it. Prove her allegations wrong.
You will have to go through the courts to get access, but based on her allegations, you will have cafcass involved who will do full back ground checks etc. You will then have to convince them you are not the monster your ex is making you out to be
Im in really tricky situation , I don't want to create tension at the non molestation hearing , got funny feeling they might cut all contact?
More contact I get this will help me a the FHDRA next year ?
Will anythinhk have affect on the FHDRA hearing next year?
There's been no police ever to house , nothing never been reported , what evidence does she need?
Really don't have a lot on money want to save eveerythink for a good solicitor and barrister for the FHDRA
Any advice be great at moment 🙂
Will anythinhk have affect on the FHDRA hearing next year? If I accepted the order or undertaking?
I was in the same position I went to court and didnt agree to the accusations made against me but didnt appeal the order the judge actually said to me it will go in my favour if I agree to it and keep my self squeaky clean as in not breaching the order which I have kept to and it actually runs out today. And I will be going to court over contact arrangements in the new year it gave me time to get a decent barrister ready and I still receive regular contact with my child and I've not let her down once and I attend every week with out fail i feel that some times mothers just use it as a form off control i would just accept it and then go to court once it's over and done with least then it shows you havent coursed any issues or had any contact like the courts asked and hopefully that will go in your favour
So today was the hearing , first time in my life I've been to any form of court , I basically accepted the order on a no admissions basis , thought it was best way forward , I still can have contact with my son , supervised threw her mum , so nothing has really changed , I think I did the right thing
In few months time is the FHDRA first hearing
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