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So went back to court today and the wife got fed to the lions.
I highlighed she prevented contact on wednesday and she got torn apart lol
She has now increased weekend contact lol during a non-mol hearing 🙂 Even given me our daughter for the day on her birthday YAY!
Unfortunately she gave my wife an option of undertaking not to return or for an order. Plainly it was obvious to see which she would go for. She said there was no need for me to return to the house. I expressed my concerns that this would go on record and be used for future hearings, but she said they wouldnt. I will get this transcribed so hopefully they will listen.
Also the judge said she was well aware of where my belongings are and she is being difficult so said I can claim all items off ancillary relief lol......
Wasnt bad given I was only expecting to defend myself in court and got myself more time with the kids and the judges noted she was a liar.......
Good luck all Im gonna have a few drinks tonight!
Well done Boycie!
You're becoming an expert at a rapid speed of knots! Lol ....I'm so glad it's going your way.
nice to hear.
i went through someting similar, started with 5 hours on every other saturday.
5 court visits and 18 months later its upto equil time, alternating weeks.
the frist time in court is the hard one.
seeing the ex get told she cant deduct time from me for this reason, that reason, leaves a grin on my face that was hard to hide.
only now i would realy benefit from havinf the child benefit, she only gets the £12 odd.
i offered to give her £20 a week for it !! - not a chance
i'm out of work and in a council flat
Dear Ian,
that is a great story and gives me hope. how old were the kids? Is there any particular reason you were able to secure an equal share? How did the judges come to the conclusion alternating weeks were the best way forward?
BW
i contested my non-molestation order today after having it for 6 weeks because of contact with my kids
i was happy to let her keep it on me but now if she is making me go court to see kids i was worried how this will affect it i can prove she lied in it any advice about these orders please
I dont think it does much mate.....she will use it saying this that and the other about you. Key thing is it is a non-mol between you two not the kids......If she does not want you to be in contact with her then she ought to propose a measure to facilitate contact with you and the kids.
Can you propose a few suggestions like family members collecting the kids?
BW
done that mate the stress on my dad of doing this is making him more ill
she keeps making arrangements then not sticking to them which is upsetting for our family
she got this order when the new bf came in to her life she has knew him for 6 weeks lived together for 3 weeks with my kids
don't know her new address or where my kids are
my mum and dad was collecting them from her mums but all contact stopped again for the 5 time
May I ask,
What is a non molestation order?
COngrats on your contact Boycie, it is good to hear someone is making real progress.
It prevents you from molesting your ex...lol
kiddin - just a private law thing which states you shouldnt contact your ex or you will be breaching the court order and could face potential criminal proceedings.
Some people will then use this as a basis for claiming you this that and the other. I am not so sure it does, but equally not convinced its gonna help your case either.
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