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long story short everyone...wife got me evicted from our 5 bed house/mortage,18 years marriage/30 years together...3 children,17,14,10 years old...non mol order breached,now not allowed any contact... i basically found out her 2 yr relationship,i since moved into premises near by,girls can and do see me every night...she gave up her job, n now shes grabbing all benefits...shes been offered work this week n wants me to drop all my work commitments(full time myself) this week just like that so she can go to swork....my 14 year old has chosen to be with me as its 1st week of school hols,n is using her as messanger between us,as im not allowed contact..this is extremely upsetting for her...what the [censored] can i do...im sure this is unreasonable behaviour on her part...shes no saying to send the 14 yr old home straight away....can she do this,its bullying to get her own way surely ??
Hi and welcome
Without any order in place, there isn't a lot stopping her doing what she's currently doing, but it's certainly not right. She also can't make you drop your work commitments (especially at short notice) simple for her convenience.
You are going to need to look at mediation as a first step, and hopefully it can be sorted out there, rather than having to go to court for an order. Take a look at www.nfm.org.uk
many thanks....its all against me ,nothings gone my way at all
Hang on in there mate - one thing you have on your side is that the children are grown up and unlikely to be overly controlled. On the other hand it is simply not acceptable to be te go between. Where are you in terms of the court process?
With regards to the non-mol how long is it for?
...I can understand how your daughter feels, the kids shouldn't be involved in the negotiations between the two of you.
Does she have a solicitor you could communicate through? It's so difficult with the non mol in place.
As far as your 14 year old is concerned, she is old enough to make decisions for herself and if your wife doesn't have a residence order then she has no more of a say than you do. You both have PR so you can both have the children live with you, or stay when they want.
Thanks above
Not only do i have this order To keep me away , my wifes loverboy is in my house with my girls present sleeping throughout the night.. What the [censored] can i do ? The police will just say its upto my wife who stays there ... Its not right at all.. I dont know this individual, who knows what his intensions are- all i know is i have a non mol for a year n she has the upperhand !
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