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I expect you've considered whether there is a friend or family member who could help?
I'd be careful asking a friend or family as it could breach the non mol if prevents direct or indirect (via 3rd party) contact with your ex except for the purposes of child contact. It's the reason why the police will not take you or come with you and they will treat it as a civil matter for you to deal with through the courts.
Unfortunately until things progress at court there is no other obvious mechanism to get your ex to engage and return or allow access to belongings.
As previously stated do not let the issue re belongings cause you to breach the non mol, trying to get your belongings will not be accepted as a valid reason.
I have been present in quite a lot of occupation order hearings and the court usually make provision for belongings to be collected from the home.
At this stage, you will either have to sit tight or contact the court. The court may consider making a direction or they may ask you to make a new application.
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