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Hi,
I have been using this forum as guidance for my case which has been helpful. Just need a bit of advise if possible
Son’s mother has not allowed me to see son for 6 months. She has said I can not until the court orders to her to.
She has kept my son away previously for approx 3 months so I thought she was bluffing and waited it out which I guess will not be best look on me.
I initiated mediation but she purposely refused as she wants a court order.
all this came around after she moved in with her partner. It seems she is purposely trying to get rid of me. I believe she is counting on me not following through due to the court process being expensive as she specifically states that all court fees etc will be on me.
before she moved I was seeing my son every other week fri-mon dropping off to school and one night midweek.
As the move is just over an hour away I can no longer do the school runs so will request 2 nights on every other weekend and half of holidays
I have never been with her or lived with her. I do know many lies can be spewed for her to get legal aid. It is possible she may go down verbal abuse route as during disagreements we have both said rude words however as the man I know mine will look worse
I have read online some people say on c100 request for more nights as you would most likely need to negotiate down? Is anyone familiar with this?
is anyone able to point me into any resources or give advice for CAFASS interview as I know that will come up
i am self representing as I just do not have the money for solicitors. Does anyone have resources or advice on this.
I am hoping she does not get legal aid as I think this will make it less daunting for me.
any general advice would be great too. I am preparing in advance as I know I am up against a extremely difficult person that does not care for me being in my sons life
hi,
if she has moved an hour away, then I think reasonable outcome will be you have kids friday after school -sunday evening, every other weekend,and half of holidays. could ask for video calls too. perhaps you could ask court if she could do 50/50 on travel/handovers. If you need more advice, you can private message me.
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