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Hi all im new to here and im looking for some advice for my partner regarding no contact with his daughter, its a pretty long story but i will try and make it as short as poss!!! basically my partner has a 4 yr old daughter who he hasnt seen since boxing day 🙁 he was with his ex 5 yrs and they split nearly 3 yrs ago and he got a new gf and she stopped him seein his daughter then, they went thro courts as there was issues with drugs (at the time my ex was smoking weed but she was ok about it when they were together) he was granted access every weekend and regular drug tests, he was seein her at his mums so was supervised any way about a yr after they split he got back with her it lasted 2 months as he realised he didnt love her so she stopped him seein his daughter again and back to the courts again!! he got the same access every sat for 9 hours at his mums, then he met me after a few months he told her about me and she seemed fine and the contact continued, then i fell pregnant and thats when she started becoming really awkward!!! she took him back to court and said she didnt feel his daughter was safe in our house(, i have a 9 yr old boy who is very well looked after) she made up alot of lies in court so he was granted access for 4 hours a fortnight!!! this had a massive impact on my partner as he missed his little girl so much, the whole time i was pregnant she caused nothing but stress to us, he was paying her £50 a week for his daughter but as he is self employed some weeks he wouldnt have it until the following week so she would stop him seein his daughter again! she then went to csa and lied and said he hadnt paid her ne money for over a year!! so he then had to deal with them but all the time he was paying she wouldnt let him see her, ne way we had our baby boy who is now 9 months old and she just got worse and worse!!! constantly saying he put our son first and sending nasty messages, she wouldnt let his daughter to our house at xmas he had to go to his mums but he ended up bringing her here boxing day and since then she hasnt let him see her, she sent me abuse n then said it was my fault his daughter wasnt allowed to our house, me and my partner split for a month due to the stress of it all and she started letting him see her again!! then we got back together and she stopped it again, ne way he is at his wits end over what to do coz she just wont let him see her but lets his family, he wants to take her back to court but we cant really afford it, and he has totally turned his life around and doesnt use drugs ne more and his a hardworking family man to both my boys, i think she is eaten up with jealousy and his using his daughter as a weapon coz she constantly lies in court and to ne one who will listen!!! he just doesnt know where to start with the contact but he needs to be a father to his little girl!! can ne one help me with this situation please???
Personally I think he should make an Application to the court. There is no legal aid any more for children matters. He could represent himself. Depending on his income or lack of, he may be exempt from paying Court fees! It sounds as though he has worked very hard for his contact and to cut it short like that out of spite and then cancel it altogether is not on! It so sounds like she cant have your partner, but neither will anyone else!"
There are many on here who have self represented, and it may be worth while seriously considering. Why let her have her own way?
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